Your Selfies, DP and Taco Picts Can Hurt You
by William Jackson, My Quest To Teach @wmjackson
The more I speak at conferences, churches and with
youth groups the more I see that information needs
to be shared with parents and their children. Too many
parents are clueless that their children are involved in
Sexting, Cyberbullying, and even digital Pimping. Yes
I said digital Pimping.
The use of Social Media to post personal pictures,
tantalizing videos, stimulating sexual photos and
sensuous party picts may be fun and exciting, but they
can hurt a teen and young adults e-reputation,
e-personality and potentially their credit score and
You can forget being involved in politics and in some
cases community service. If you “equipment” is
posted for everyone to see that is almost and death
sentences for any political dreams.
Employers, educational institutions and even the
military have the capability to check Social Media
platforms to look for and find potentially harmful
information that can stop college entrance,
put a stop on receiving scholarships and internships,
even prevent starting a promising career in a
dream job making millions.
Parents should learn the terminology their children
are using online to stop potential problems before
they happen, giving their children a Smartphone is
not very bright without talking about expectations
for behaviors and actions. It is almost like giving
the keys of their car to a unlicensed driver with no
experience, no insurance and no limits.
The Internet contains the worst and the best of
human information, but youth, teens and young
adults will ultimately find or be attracted to the
parts that are unhealthy and potentially dangerous.
The lure of excitement is more exciting than common
Sexting is a dangerous activity that children are
participating in, they lack the maturity to understand
that as a boy sending a (DP) “dick pic” or a girl sending
a (Taco) or vagina pict has consequences that may
involve law enforcement and being involved in child
porn. Their reputations can be destroyed and that
DP or Taco will never go away because information
is backed up, archived and stored on servers someplace.
DP’s are part of Sexting and even for girls thinking just
showing some breast, some genital area or even more
is not a big deal.
Tell that to the girls that have been harassed, bullied
both cyber and physically and even the ones that have
committed suicide because of a wrong choice that
will not go away.
Traditional laws years ago did not have to address the
Sexting and child porn of the last 10 to 15 years,
because of the Internet Congress has passed legislation
to cover these issues and jails contain men and women
caught in child porn and prostitution rings. Laws and
the execution of them demanded law enforcement
using online Apps, platforms and tools to track down
those that seek to have sex with children. Pretending to
want sex as a child and “baiting” both men and women
is seen on the news as they travel sometimes hundreds
of miles to engage in sex with a minor.
Parents need to understand they have a moral and
ethical responsibility to talk to their children no
matter the age to set expectations, to reinforce personal
values and morals about their conduct and actions online.
The online world does have dangers and tragedies can
be seen when kids are kidnapped, sexually assaulted or
sold as sex slaves when enticed to meet strangers away
Sexting; is the sending and receiving of sexually explicit
photos and/or text using cell phones with digital cameras.
USA Today has reported in past issues that the percentage
of men admitted to sending a DP is increasing:
those surveyed because they were asked for one, others
they wanted to turn the other person on. Other reasons
flirting and to get the other person to send one back.
Teen girls have reported it is important to “checking out
the junk” to see how real it is because the imagination
can be deceptive and wrong and all boys lie about the
size they have.
“It is the imagination part of sexting that mainly attracts
women to it,” and the thrill for guys.
*Warning adult content and information.
The percentages are that women are more prone to send
images that stir excitement, create the allure of romance,
not just sex and the invitation to “hookup” mostly with
a male they are attracted to. Sexting can be seen as the
new love note, similar to the notes that use to be passed
around in class, “do you love me yes or no.” Now photos
and video are seen as the tools to get noticed and get into
a relationship. Used by kids even in elementary schools
to get boys and girls to like them.
Studies conducted by the Kinsey Institute at Indiana
University, published in the journal Sexual Health, 5,805
single adults between the ages of 21 and 77; 23 percent
reported sharing the sexts they received with an average
of more than three different friends. This translates into
No Privacy exists in cyberspace and that those that
Sext have no idea who is looking at them in the world
and have their personal information.
During my presentations over the years with community
groups, youth, teens and young adult groups and even
at the international Preventing Crime In The Black
Community I speak realistically to youth, teens, and
young adults about the potential dangers and future
affects of Sexting. It is not romantic, it is not sexy,
it is not what they think when the image is spread to
a whole school or the football team, or basketball team.
Too many young people still are under the idea that
their pictures will be deleted when they break up with
that boy or girl they are dating, but the hospitals and
even cemeteries show that is not the case when youth,
teens and young adults try to or successfully commit
suicide because their sexting pictures or video are
spread to others and they are harassed and
embarrassed at school, in church and in their
On the Internet there is no place to hide and no
where to run. Parents talk to your children, Google them
to see what is out there in photos, videos and sharing
sites, be friends with them online and if necessary
contact your cell phone provider and see who they are
texting and sending and receiving
photos and videos with. Be proactive not reactive…..
It is important to be proactive before an incident happens
and law enforcement comes knocking on your door and
takes everyone’s devices for an investigation that will
be embarrassing for you at work, in church and in
Youth, teens and young adults convicted of child porn
must register as a sex offender and this will destroy
their freedoms for a long time and bring social changes
that will affect the whole family for years to come.
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