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October 5, 2018

Parents are Your Children Dangerously Flirting Online

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Parents are Your Children Dangerously Flirting Online
by William Jackson, M.Ed.

I was asked to repost this blog by some mothers in Jacksonville
to prove a point to their daughters about the dangers of the
Internet. This blogs influence came from the news story on the
12 year old girl situation and Facebook. Girl lured into sex trade
through Facebook Invite.

The access to online sites that promote innocent Flirting is
drawing attention by law enforcement because of the growing
incidents of rape on minor age boys and girls. This is scary as
a parent and elementary school teacher. Presenting at conferences
and seminars I hope to teach youth the dangers of online content
that they post and the dangers of making unseen friendships in
chatroom’s. Many sites entice and encourage young girls and boys
to flirt to gain a larger and older audience, but it is being found that
older men are enticing young girls and even boys to meet face
to face with dangerous results.

News reports have shown a dangerous trend with online contact with
older men and minor young teen girls. Flirting is seen as innocent and
playful; high school girls and boys flirting, even elementary school age
kids experimenting with who they like. This ”greenness” form of
flirting is perceived as cute and harmless in most cases. Skating
the edges of emotional connectivity to see if there is a potential for
a relationship either as friends or a more serious relationship.
The Internet has created a dangerous opportunity for sexual encounters
for girls and even boys and opened the door for Sexting, sexual luring,
and Cyberbullying using sexually explicit content.

Parents need to be aware and involved in their children’s Internet activities.
The seriousness of this can be seen from NY Times reports that shows
growing incidents of rapes. There are Internet Apps that aid in flirting,
the danger is so sever that mobile apps help users connect with others.
The challenge that technology has allowed an open and unregulated
connection that parents must be concerned. Unfortunately pedophiles,
stalkers and child molesters visit sites and pretend to be teens.
They study conversations, styles, words, slang and the best times to be
online to make contact. Teens also will lie about their ages to gain access
to adult sites. Even though there are dangers, teens discount the dangers
for the chance to act as adults and engage in adult conversations and
sometimes behaviors.

As an elementary school teacher I hear students in fourth and fifth grade
talking and their conversations are adult in nature, discussing their online
activities using profanity, color does not matter it happens with Caucasian
and Blacks. The results potentially dangerous as seen from information
that cases have been shown on news reports from 2017:
15 year old Ohio girl said she had been raped by a 37 year old man, a 24
year old man has been accused of raping a 12 year old girl in California
and a 21 year old man from Wisconsin is facing charges that he sexually
assaulted a 13-year-old boy.

Parents need to make sure that even if they allow their minor children or teens to
access sites that promote social contact that their children understand not to post
their address, phone numbers, or other personal information that can be used online
to find them. Online maps are so accurate that just a small amount of information a
stalker can find a child’s school, home, hangout areas. Vint Cerf, considered one of
the “Fathers of the Internet” stated, “The Internet is a reflection of our society and
that mirror is going to be reflecting what we see. Children do not see any reflections,
they just see what they want and what excites them.”

Parents if you have not done so talk to your children or you may wish you had later
and don’t have the mentality of some parents that the Internet is totally safe, “I had
no clue this was even going on in Central Texas (online stalking).
I thought it was a third world country situation” as an Austin, Texas woman claimed
after finding her niece that was abducted and sold into prostitution after she met
someone online and decided to meet that person even after told not to by her mother.
We are not a third world country and most third world countries do not have open and
uncensored Internet access in their homes for children to use un-monitored and
uncensored by their parents.

Parents take your responsibility as a parent seriously. Computers and the Internet
are not 21st century TV’s, monitor your child’s activities and friends.

William Jackson, M.Edu.
Parent, Educator, Community Activist
#NewTownSuccessZone #VisionKeepers
#MyQuestToTeach

 

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February 26, 2017

A Girls Journey Into Social Media

A Girls Journey Into Social Media
by William Jackson and Breyonna Fox
My Quest to Teach

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Journey Into Womanhood a wonderful collaboration of
young ladies from elementary age to high school held a
workshop  dedicated to teaching about Social Media
safety and responsibility, the prevention of Cyberbullying
and the problems Sexting causes in destroying a girls
reputation and potentially their future career choices.

Elexia Coleman the director and visionary of the program
provides educational,  intellectual, culturally bonding and
community experiences that help girls and young  ladies
grow and blossom in an environment that is encouraging
and engaging.

JIW is an opportunity for girls and young ladies to experience
presentations on multiple levels of activity; professionals like
William Jackson and his intern Breyonna Fox talked to the
ladies on serious subjects that potentially influence decisions
that can have social and career influences.

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Asya and Breyonna Fox

Ms. Fox spoke on her experiences on being bullied and how
Sexting can destroy lives and involve law enforcement.
Ms. Fox shared how girls in high school are under the false
ideas that Sexting is glamorous until their photos are shared
with others that where not intended to see them because of
breaking up with friends and trying to impress a boy or girl.

Boys are involved in Sexting as well and can suffer social and
criminal investigation. There are legal issues that could result
in charges of pornography and child endangerment that may
follow a boy or girl through their life. Ms. Fox shared that  each
girl present  should have personal self-confidence and
self-respect. “The unfortunate reality is that  girls and women
have committed suicide because of Bullying and Sexting.”
Breyonna Fox

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William Jackson a teacher in the public school system and a
Professor at Edward Waters College shares with the young
ladies that there is nothing a boy or man can provide that is
more important than personal respect and pride. Through
education a young lady and woman can achieve great things
above and beyond the material things a person like a boy or
girl can give them.

The title of the workshop, “How to be Dope and Responsible
on Social Media,” is available to other organizations that work
with youth, teens and young  adults.  Mr. Jackson speaks at the
international conference Preventing Crime in the Black
Community on preventing bullying, cyberbullying, the power
of incorporating STEM in  education and many aspects of
Social Media.

Volunteers are key to the success of JIW program that will be
celebrating the end of another program year on
Sunday, April 9th  2017 at their annual banquet. JIW is a 501c3
program and accepts donations to provide services to the
participants that will have life-long influence to help the
young ladies grow into future leaders in business, finance,
commerce, education and other careers that fulfill dreams.

The rewarding results of JIW can be seen in the community
involvement of girls and young ladies like Taylor Richardson
#AstronautStarBright, she is working to become an astronaut
and travel to Mars and back,  Taylor and her mom are working
to help girls and women in Jacksonville to see the movie
“Hidden Figures.” They were both invited by the Obama
administration to the White House premiere. Sitting with
current and past NASA astronauts, the actors of Hidden
Figures, First Lady Michelle Obama and other dignitaries.

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Taylor along with other young ladies are doing extraordinary
things in the community and bringing awesome media and news
reports of the great contributions young ladies are providing in
Jacksonville, Florida.

Sponsorship’s and donations are welcomed by JIW to help
continue the works they do in the community that influence
positive directions and accomplishments.

 Resources:
Journey Into Womanhood – http://theconnectory.org/program/journey-into-womanhood-2
JIW Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/empowerment.resources/
The Program
http://www.empowermentresourcesinc.org/what-we-do/journey-into-womanhood-program/

Additional Photos from 2017 -2016 – 2015 Workshops on
STEAM – Cyberbullying – Social Media – Sexting – Education

November 19, 2016

Parents Is Your Child Sexting and Your Paying the Bill

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Parents Is Your Child Sexting and Your Paying the Bill
by William Jackson, M.Ed. @wmjackson
#MyQuestToTeach

Parents expand the talk about
bullying into the area of Sexting
to make sure your child understands
that Sexting is a form of digital porn.
One in five tweens/teens/young adults’
maybe risking prison because of
sending and receiving child pornography.
This includes risking being labeled
as a sex offender or sexual predator because of distributing
nude or semi nude pictures of themselves or others under the age of 18.

Cell phone technology has contributed to the ability to send pictures and video
that normally would not be accessible and sharable. Youth and teens have learned
the empowerment and engagement of technology, applying it inappropriately
because of immaturity; the thrill of sexual activity and peer pressure.

Parents need to understand that teens with cell phones are not restricted from
sending, receiving or further distribution of nude or semi-nude pictures on Social Media.
If a youth willingly or unwillingly is photographed partially nude, semi-nude or totally
nude that is under 18 and those pictures are distributed electronically it is against
the law.

Even though the circumstances may seem trivial the results can be devastating to
a young person and their reputations within school, community and even where they
worship religiously are damaged, their reputations can be destroyed.
This is a digital age of E-reputations and E-personalities that are important and need to
be protected and managed.
Surveys have shown that teenagers and young adults surveyed by the National
Campaign to Prevent Teenage and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com found
that 25 percent of teenagers and 36 percent of young adults ages 20 to 26 said they
had sent or posted nude or semi-nude photos of themselves.

This survey may seem hard to believe, the information holds true and seems to be
growing because of the increase in cell phone use by tweens, teens and young adults
is growing. The power of wireless technology has increasingly caused problems for
parents, schools and law enforcement because of the increased ability to send and
receive information on multiple platforms and even in Apps.

Additional surveys have shown parents and guardians that tweens, teens and young
adults should never be underestimated or perceived as naive or technology illiterate.
Teens teach each other new tips and tricks, the latest skills, hacks, hints and codes
that allow for more flexibility and manipulation of technology both legal and illegal.
Parents should be aware that their children and teens may have a sexual inquisitiveness,
subjected to bad judgment, influenced by peer pressure and love of electronic sharing
especially with pictures and video they take. When these elements are combined it
can become dangerous combination of technology and raging hormones.

Parents, especially if they are
paying the cell phone bill should
periodically without notice check
the monthly bills online for activity,
this can show texts sent and received,
photos, video and other important
information that is transmitted digitally;
the use of data is important because
that can be an indication of increased use.

Parents should occasionally physically
check phones for content, if a child refuses to
give their phone when asked this is a red
flag that something is not right and the parent
should investigate further. Technology is a two-edged sword, it can help with networking,
research and empowering youth, teens and young adults with information, the Internet
is a wide open portal to appropriate and inappropriate information parents must
communicate with their children their expectations for behaviors on and off-line.
Parents have a responsibility and are accountable to manage what they allow
their children access to and will be held accountable if necessary by law enforcement.


Resources:
Missing and Exploited Children
http://www.netsmartz.org/Sexting

Growing Wireless – Sexting
http://www.growingwireless.com/be-aware/sexting

November 7, 2016

The Difference with Fathers and Sperm Donors

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The Difference with Fathers and Sperm Donors
by William Jackson
Father – not sperm donor
Educator – professional
Blogger – national and international

Fathers unless you have your house in order
do not complain or ridicule your brother’s house.
The Igbo, always practical, put it concretely in
their proverb: Onye ji onye n’ani ji onwe ya: “
He who will hold another down in the mud
must stay in the mud to keep him down.”
The Education of a British-Protected Child: Essays

“Fathers, it is time to lift our children, our families,
our culture, our communities from the mud of poverty,
ignorance, death and destruction.”
William Jackson – My Quest To Teach

Fathers have a choice to be a blessing or a curse
to their children, to lead them to a life of safety and
growth or condemn them to potential death
sentences of poverty, ignorance and no societal,
economic and political voice. They (fathers) are
supposed to be the foundation, the rock that their
families can stand on during the storms of life and
the challenges that they will face. The national
deaths by violence of children, teens and young
adults by their peers are a signal that parents
are not doing their jobs and too many fathers
are not parenting, fathering, guiding and mentoring.

 


There is work to do in the community, too many
fathers are counter-productive and adding to the
troubles their communities are facing.
Fathers are influential in the social and educational
directions of their children, they set the tones for
social interaction, establishing the direction of their
children and others around them.

Fathers must teach developing social skills and
humbleness that boys and girls developing into
men and women will need. Children are modeling
their father’s insecurities, negativeness in mentality
and social actions. The father is the model whether
at home or not, looking at the communities of
color and culture too many fathers are not
involved or do not care.

Social skills are not just necessary social
requirements; they are the patterns of behaviors
for survival that boys and girls of color and culture
will need to know in order to grow in a society
that is still struggling with boys and girls of
diversity and color. The directions of life take
many twists and turns for youth especially
youth of color.

This is NOT another hate the system or hate
the government blog, nor is it a blog on what
the educational system is not accomplishing.
This blog addresses the responsibilities of
men in the village to re-evaluate and
re-prioritize their thinking and to be of service
to their communities.

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The Nigerian author Chinua Achebe through
his writings tries to teach men that positive
emotions to their children are beneficial and
“do not
 fear being thought weak as a man
because men show emotions, they should to
establish a connection with their families.
Men have a right that extends to the
accountability and responsibility to be involved
in their children’s educational growth and social
development. How can men attend sporting
events in support of their children, but cannot
consistently volunteer, visit, mentor, support
their children’s schools that are preparing
them for life in this nation?

Achebe shares, (fathers) “do not show any
human emotions and sentiments so as not to
be seen as weak,” are creating un-caring
societies where children are forgetting the
value of love, compassion, sympathy and
honor. Men do not have to cry to show
emotions, but should hug and kiss their children,
just as African men have done for centuries.

How many men can blame the State Attorney’s
Office and law enforcement if they won’t “man up
handling their “business” and parental responsibilities
in raising their children? Prisons are not Day
Cares, Learning Centers, Enrichment Organizations;
how many men visit their  children that are
incarcerated, how many men are proactive to teach
their children that prison is the wrong direction to go.

Fathers instead of speaking against schools need
to volunteer in them, work with teachers and
administrators to make sure all students are
successful. Learning starts at home and fathers
need to be responsible for this happening and
continuing. What father would want their child
to learn from the streets and face incarceration
or even death from the hands of their brothers?

Fathers need to be involved in a dialogue that
teaches with love and wisdom, young fathers
need help in understanding they are important in
their child’s life-long development.  An appropriate
quote from Nigeria that the late Achebe shares,
People who do not seek their fellow human beings’
help when in danger or difficulty are therefore
animalistic.”

Too many children are in need of mentors, guidance
and direction that can come from men that see children
as a future investment. Fathers cannot just be sperm
donors. Spreading their seed without being held
accountable and responsible.

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Children should be seen holding their fathers hands
and involved in activities that build critical thinking
skills, encourage problem solving abilities and
promote higher order thinking that creates language
development, increased vocabulary and appreciation
for being intelligent. “People say that if you find water
rising up to your ankle, that’s the time to do something
about it, not when it’s around your neck
.” Chinua Achebe

African American communities are finding crime and
death inching around their necks, they don’t want
police involved so should do something positive about
it to make a change in their communities.

The term “Sperm Donor” is nothing to be proud of,
it is a title of irresponsibility, immaturity, and weakness.
Because of continuous generational tragedies of
fathers running away from their responsibilities young
people of color are thereby increasing their likelihood
of entering correctional facilities, being placed in
special education class and if daddy is not there who
do kids model except who they see on the streets
and television.
To keep children of color and culture from entering
into the “pipeline” involvement is needed not reaction.
Fathers are an important part of this effort and once
again fathers need to be excited about being a father.
In the beginning man was created first so men must
step up and be a part of their children’s lives before
cemeteries and jail have more children, youth
and young adults in them than schools.

 

September 28, 2016

Dads Take Your Child to School Day

Dads Take Your Child to School Day
by William Jackson, M.Edu.
Instructor with Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach
Daddy Blogger – Community Activist – Educator
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The Florida Department of Education initiative:
Dads Take Your Child to School Day! The Department
of Family and Community Engagement is partnering on
this initiative. This event is similar to the Million Father
March that was held on the first day of school nationally.

As part of  this initiative, fathers are asked to show their child
that they value and support their education by bringing them
to school on Wednesday, September 28th and that they
commit to being involved in their learning throughout the year.

This is a great opportunity to increase parental engagement,
especially among fathers, for the entire 2016-17 school year.
Last year, fathers, grandfathers, foster fathers, stepfathers,
uncles, cousins, big brothers, male caregivers, mentors and
family friends all showed their support for students across
the state through their participation. The excitement for
many students is continuing to blossom and the work
continues for academic growth and success. Fathers are
very important in the process of education, helping in laying
a foundation for the importance of maturing academically
and socially. Being a father requires continuous giving,
generosity, kindness, compassion, empathy, love and
dedication to another life besides their own.

Education is a life-long process that is influenced by
parental priorities and influence.

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“Fathers can and do change the world one child
at a time.” William Jackson, M.Edu.

These are suggestions from a father, educator, and
community activist to encourage fathers to
participate and be engaged in the educational
process of their children from early childhood to
higher education.

1. Fathers respect your child’s teacher(s)

One way to support education is to model respect for
teachers and administrators. Fathers speak more by
their actions than words, so visit schools and praise
teachers and administrators.
2. Fathers spend time in the school
Even though it might be tough to visit schools at
least once a month it makes a world of difference
in a child’s behavior and academic success. Spending
time means sacrificing a lunch time, overtime or
buddy time. The rewards are great, just look in
your child’s eyes and see.
3. Fathers listen to teachers not talk at them
Sometimes it is more valuable to listen than to speak.
Fathers must trust teachers to tell them the truth about
their children even if the truth hurts or challenges
making changes to discipline, doing homework,
requiring tutors or not participating in sports or after
school activities. The priority of school is education.
4. Fathers discipline with Love
Many of us have humorous stories of being disciplined
when we were of youthful vigor and energy. We
understood later we were wrong in some of our actions
and choices and that discipline was done with love.
So fathers must continue to have love in their hearts
and minds and discipline fairly and with love.
5. Fathers are Role Models
Fathers are the first role models, even when we don’t
think our kids are watching, they are and other kids do
too. So our actions speak louder than words. We can’t
say “do as I say and not do as I do” because we
send the wrong messages and set our actions and
words up to be hypocritical and without meaning.
6. Fathers are Teachers
When a father teaches it is by his actions not always
by his words. The first teacher should be the child’s
parents. They establish the foundation for future success.
Even if not a great student in school fathers can teach
their children from their mistakes to help their children
to be better academically and socially.

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7. Fathers  should share meals
A great time to share is when eating together. This is a
relaxing time to joke, share, encourage, engage in fun
conversation. Sharing meals should not be serious times,
but memorable ones starting with prayer.
Communication should be two ways that encourage the
kids to ask questions too.
8. Fathers Read to their Children
When my children where toddlers until middle school
their mother and I read to them at various times  during
the day and when it was bed time. This created an
atmosphere where reading was fun. When
they were able to we allowed them to read to us. Even
though we divorced I still read to my children to keep
the consistency and fun of it. Fathers that are not strong
readers should read to their level and build as their
children build. Learning together should not be an
embarrassment it should be a cooperative effort to
show comprehension and literacy are vital.
9. Fathers Show Affection
Fathers cannot afford to be “hard” and unemotional,
this creates unstable emotional behaviors in children
that cause confusion and conflicting emotions for
stability and expression. Fathers have to model love,
proper affection, sensitivity, common sense,
compassion, tenderness. These are what children
need to learn to function in society.
10. Fathers Job is Never Done
At the time of this writing 2016 both my children
are in college, working, driving and in some
capacity they are still dependent on me. Fathering
is a lifelong responsibility even when children are
maturing into adults themselves. Fathers are the
cushions, the barriers that God has placed to make
the world less scary, less threatening and less
depressing when the challenges of life attack
our children.

Children need to know that daddy will be there
not just for money, but for encouragement, advice,
praise, love, prayers and sometimes just a silent
shoulder to listen and arms for reassuring hugs.
Fathers you must decide what kind of father you
want to be, it is a choice and personal decision.
Don’t try to be like any other father but who you
are. Don’t be fake, foolish or fraud, your children
will see right through you.
It is ok to be scared, nervous and apprehensive,
no one has all the answers, you have more life
experiences than your children so use that to
build on as a foundation of support and love.

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Resources:
“The Talk” with your kids:
http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/09/05/345891814/whats-your-take-on-nprthetalk  how to make sure your  child comes home.

 

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