My Quest To Teach

September 12, 2016

Fatherhood from the First Day of School

Fatherhood from the First Day of School To The Last
William Jackson, M.Ed.
Educator of 27 years, Teacher of the Year,
Instructor with Edward Waters College
Parent of 2 college students

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William and Sean


Each school year is an opportunity to begin anew not just for
kid, but for parents as well. To start off on a great foundation of
learning and discovery. It is also another opportunity to encourage
fathers, grandfathers, uncles, stepfathers and surrogate fathers to
mentor and volunteer in schools.
Fathers must understand they do have an impact in schools and
the need to be involved and engaged.
To be involved in making their children’s lives a better opportunity
to grow and to be better than their parents.
Fathers have to understand they leave a legacy with their children.

Nationally through the Million Father March the first day of school
is important to set the foundation for a academic year of 180 days
for learning. To improve reading and develop comprehension. To
celebrate the creatives, the innovators, the intellectuals and the
students that are not athletes nor are they entertainers. They are
the “smart” kids that sometimes to do not get recognized,
they do not get noticed and sometimes even picked on and bullied.

A father presence can stop bullying, they can stop harassment,
they can build self-esteem and self-confidence. In this mission
fathers are key to motivating, encouraging, and making learning
exciting and even protecting and guiding their and other kids.

No matter the educational level of the father, data shows how
important fathers are. Dads, stepdads and male figures
do account for success in the classroom and school environment.
Not to mention active fathers improve communities.

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School districts if they are not should accept
fathers and use them as a motivational tool
and role models to help students see other
options in careers and success.
In many school districts fathers are welcomed
and encouraged to attend PTA meetings,
join School Advisory Councils and even
encouraged to attend school board meetings
contributing in school improvement discussions.
Fathers have a different perspective and need
to be used for their wisdom and knowledge.

Men don’t let a potential background issues
keep you from registering to volunteer for
your child’s educational success. Children need
the support and value that men show for education.

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My daughter and I when she was in elementary
school, I visited her school once a month with
my son and daughter.
Took off work and made that sacrifice. Still
picked up my son and daughter every other weekend.
It was not easy and many miles of travel.

Support should not be just on the first day,
it should be every day, every week and every
month. What would happen if parents decided
they do not want to be parents for a week or
a month. That is the case in some situations
in schools.

Many schools started after the Labor Day
weekend. Fathers should know their children’s
teachers, the Principal, Vice Principal, who
the Guidance Counselor is.
Father should know or have a copy of the lunch
schedule and even locked in their phones
the schools number.
Fathers should know what the school start time
and end time is as well so they can pickup their
kids or be able to attend parent / teacher
conferences.

Tag yourself through the year in the hashtag
#BackToSchool, #MillionFatherMarch on Twitter,
Facebook and other Social Media platforms to
show your support and involvement in the
schools this year in your community and in your city.

Keep  up to date on school events and activities,
stay connected and engaged.

Everyone wins and everyone benefits when
fathers and concerned men are part of the
educational process for children.

All fathers have a responsibility to be engaged and active in their
communities. You never know who you influence and how you can
help children grow. #MyQuestToTeach

Resources:

The Alphabet of Fatherhood
http://thyblackman.com/2016/09/03/the-alphabet-of-fatherhood-can-be-awesome/

The role of being a father
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTdmfBeWlKU

Change the Discussion on Black Fathers
http://www.quirkybrownlove.com/2015/05/change-discussion-on-black-fathers.html

GetConnectDAD @GetConnectDad

Dad 2.0 Summit @dad2summit

Daddydaddydaddy @daddydaddydadus

Melanin Bloggers @MelaninBloggers

The Father Effect @thefathereffect

Dad Summit
https://twitter.com/dad2summit

New Fathers Chronicles on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZoaoWgTo61BNTquePdHGu

 

July 4, 2016

How Do You Change African American Communities Part II

How Do You Change African American Communities Part II
The connections to change a community…………

1. African Americans must build psychological
weapons to fight tyranny. Physical weapons do
not allow for systemic growth and improvement
through generations.

2. African Americans must build schools in
their communities no matter who attends them.
African Americans must volunteer like whites and
Asians do, if your not employed put your time to
good use and do positive things in the
community and volunteering in the schools.

3. African Americans must remember that President
Obama is the President of the United States of
America and African Americans are not the only
ones that put him in office. They need to colloborate
with others to make changes.

4. African Americans need to recognize their
intellectuals along with their athletes and
entertainers. Intellectual students (the Blerds,
Nerds, and Geeks) will make changes that influence
economics, commerce and involved in STEAM.

5. African Americans must not be content with
just owning things. They must work to build
businesses, they must support their innovators
and their creators in their children.

6. African Americans must believe in equal
educational value for both girls and boys.
More women are starting businesses, hiring from
their neighborhoods and providing employment
opportunities.

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7. African Americans must honor and seek advise
from their elders as they did decades ago.
To face economic and societal challenges with
plans of community collaboration,
development, working with law enforcement
and building employment skills.

8. African Americans must value community
dialogues that includes all religious beliefs
and lifestyles. The scope is to improve their
communities and unify. Colorism and inner
racism must stop.

9. African Americans must not allow mediocrity
from their children. They must have high and
realistic expectations from their children
in education and volunteering in the community.

10. African Americans must hold their city
council members accountable, to be seen and
active in the communities they serve. They
should not be seen just for media shots and
sound bytes. They should be seen more during
non re-election years letting their works
speak for them when elections do come around.

11. African Americans must be involved, active,
engaged in their communities, schools and
churches. African Americans must attend PTA
meetings, SAC -school advisory council meetings,
school board meetings and even community
law enforcement meetings.

12. African Americans should not allow anyone
to keep them from learning and growing
academically. Churches should be offering
tutoring services in reading, math and science.

13.African Americans must read diverse
literature especially from other African
Americans and Africans. There should be
community book talks, political discussions
and STEAM seminars for kids and teens.

16. African American children should focus on
what they can do, not what they cannot do.
Parents need to embrace their children’s
abilities, talents, skills and dreams and guide
them to success.

17. African American fathers should show love
to their sons and spend time with their children.
They need to be building relationships and
developing compassion, empathy, sincerity,
and humility.

18. African American parents must choose to
sacrifice for their kids and spend monies on
books, literature and other learning
opportunities.

19. African Americans must change the culture
of fear in their communities. There needs to
be a focus on unity and equality within their
own communities.

20. African Americans need to leverage their
talented ones, to be able to write community
grants to provide educational chances and
not keep all resources to themselves.

21. African American religious centers
should combine for the benefit of their
communities not just their individual
churches.

“The choices of today will affect the
opportunities of tomorrow.”
William Jackson

May 5, 2016

High School Athletes – Having A Tunsil Moment

Having A Tunsil Moment
William Jackson, M.Ed.

Prevent Having A Tunsil Moment

Our behaviors are influenced by youthful
exuberance, ignorance to the consequences
of our actions and just plain stupidity. Many
of us have done things, participated in
activities that when we look back on we
resent and regret. Maturity is a great thing
to have, but it is gained from experiences
from life lessons.

Behaviors when mixed with alcohol, drugs and other substances
blur the lines between common sense and irrational behaviors.
When combined with technology we display a side of ourselves
that we normally would not. We act and react differently because
our thoughts are either clouded irrational actions and our youthful
excitement of the moment.

The National Football League Draft of 2016 will be seen as a lesson
in Social Media  caution and accountability. The lessons
learned are not just for athletes, but for everyone seeking to
achieve their goals, dreams and career aspirations.

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Laremy Tunsil’s high school mistake is a wakeup call for
high school and middle school students that use Social Media.
The events that happened no matter how they took place
shows several things, people will try to use Social Media
content to hurt others, you are accountable and responsible
for your content that you post from videos, to photos
and we cannot predict our futures.

This lesson in a way was experienced by Vanessa Williams
years ago when she was the first African American
to win Miss. America, but her crown was taken back
because of photos from her past. She survived with
the support of family and friends and her determined
will to be successful.
http://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/miss-america-resigns

The term, hind sight is 20/20, I’m sure if she knew she
was going to be Miss America she would not have taken
those photos and chosen another course of action to support
herself. Tunsil, I’m sure would not have participated in the
events shown online and not recorded them. The actions of
youth mixed with substances that take control of the
mind are a dangerous combination.

Social Media is not a crystal ball into the future, but a
window to the past, it can show positive and productive
events or behaviors that show lack of  thought and
maturity. As I have stated in many conversations at
conferences, seminars and workshops:
“Your digital devices can be your best friends or
worse enemies, depending on the type of content you
create and post, share and associate with.” William Jackson

Social Media platforms are growing and allow unprecedented
opportunities to share content that shares our lives,
parents must be sure to talk to their children to
get them to understand that everything they do does
not have to go online and their behaviors, actions
and associations can be a curse for the future.

“Privacy is dead, and social media hold the smoking gun.”
Pete Cashmore, Mashable CEO Tweet This!

Internet Caution

Internet Caution

As I have blogged parents need to “Google and Hash Tag,”
their children from time to time to protect them from
themselves. To talk to their children, set ground rules
and have expectations for behaviors. Along with this if
the rules are broken consequences for actions that can
ultimately be detrimental to future careers.

Social Media is a reflection of society, there are wonderful
resources that allow for personal growth, educational
access, networking and social interactions that build
dynamic and global relationships, but the other end
are areas that promote chaos, confusion and even death;
physical, moral, psychological and spiritual defecation to
logic and common sense.
Parents are their children’s first line of defense to
protect their children from physical and digital mistakes.

The Internet has created an atmosphere where children,
youth, teens and young adults feel they cannot live without
access, they have to be connected to friends and resources
that can influence behaviors outside of their “normal”
influences. Tuncil is not the only one that has been
exposed, there are others, some were lucky, but there
are others that have heartbreaking stories resulting in
unemployment, shame and embarrassment. The issue with
Social Media is that others are influenced because of the
“connected communities.” Everyone else can see
your business and if you allow only a select few,
this does not stop the spreading of rumors and innuendos.

Caution in the actions and reactions of situations and
circumstances is important. Think about how or if what
you post can or will affect you and your family. It only
takes a few seconds to change to course of your future
when posting on Social Media.

“Social media is changing the way we communicate and the
way we are perceived, both positively and negatively.
Every time you post a photo, or update your status, you
are contributing to your own digital footprint and personal
Brand.” Amy Jo Martin

The dangers are not just employment and social stability,
the dangers are destroying your Brand that you have worked
hard to build. From your E-Brand to your e-Reputation
and even your e-Personality all are affected. In some cases
it is easier to destroy your personal Brand and almost
impossible to rebuild it after a mistaken posting.

“How valuable your e-Brand, e-Personality, e-Reputation and
e-Value are cannot be determined until you do something to
damage it on Social Media.” William Jackson

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