My Quest To Teach

November 4, 2016

The Humanity of Fatherhood

The Humanity of Fatherhood
William Jackson, M.Edu
Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach

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Chinua Achebe, “We cannot trample upon
the humanity of others without devaluing our
own.” The Igbo, always practical, put it
concretely in their proverb:
Onye ji onye n’ani ji onwe ya:
“He who will hold another down in the mud
must stay in the mud to keep him down.”
The Education of a British-Protected Child: Essays

“Fathers, it is time to lift our children, our families,
our culture, our communities from the mud
of poverty, death and destruction.”
William Jackson – My Quest To Teach

Watching the media and the continued deaths
of young men and young women, fathers have
a choice to be a blessing or a curse to their
children, to embed humanity into their process
of raising their families. To lead them to a life
of safety and growth or condemn them to
potential sentences of poverty, lack of
educational success and a societal voice of
silence.

Fathers are supposed to be the foundation,
the rock that their families can stand on during
the storms of life and the challenges that they
will face. The national deaths by violence of
children of color and culture are a signal that
too many fathers are not doing their jobs,
importantly too many men are not parenting,
fathering, guiding and mentoring. Too many
are talking, their lips are moving, but their feet
and hearts are standing still. There is work to
do in their communities, but too many fathers
are counterproductive and adding to the
troubles their communities are facing.

 

 

 

Fathers are influential in the social and
educational directions of their children, they set
the tones for social interaction, establishing the
direction of their children and others around
them, growing and developing the social skills
and humbleness that boys and girls developing
into men and women will need. Children are
modeling their father’s activities, mentalities,
their lack of compassion and lack of sensitivities
to their children. The father is the model whether
at home or not, looking at the communities of
color and culture too many fathers are not
involved or do not care.

Social skills are not just necessary social requirements;
they are the patterns of behaviors for survival that boys
and girls of color and culture will need to know in order
to grow in a society that is still struggling with boys and
girls of diversity and color. The directions of life take
many twists and turns for youth especially African
American youth, this is NOT another hate the system
or hate the government blog, nor is it a blog on what
the educational system is not accomplishing.

This blog addresses the responsibilities of “Men in
the Village” to re-evaluate and re-prioritize their thinking
and to be of service to their communities.
The great Nigerian author Chinua Achebe through his
writings tries to teach men that positive emotions to
their children are beneficial and “do not
fear being
thought weak as a man” because men show emotions,
they should to establish a connection with their families.

Men have a right that extends to the accountability and
responsibility to be involved in their children’s educational
growth and development. How can hundreds if not
thousands of men attend sporting events in support
of their children, but cannot consistently volunteer, visit,
mentor, support their children’s schools that are preparing
them for life in this nation?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
Achebe shares, “(fathers) do not show any human emotions
and sentiments so as not to be seen as weak,” are creating
un-caring societies where children are forgetting the value
of love, compassion, sympathy and honor. Men do not have
to cry to show emotions, but should hug and kiss their children,
hold their hands and provide emotional support and
mental comfort just as African men have done for centuries.
How many men can blame the State Attorney’s Office
and law enforcement if they won’t “man up” handling
their “business” and parental responsibilities in raising
their children? Prisons are not Day Cares, Learning
Centers, Enrichment Organizations; how many men can
blame the school district if they have not started the
process of educating their children in the basics of
reading, math and social behaviors at home that allow
for education in a formal setting to start. Learning
starts at home and fathers need to be responsible
for this happening.

The streets, back alleys, street corners and clubs of
our communities will teach skills that will lead to
death or prison as seen in children today, what real
father can be proud of that?

Fathers need to be involved in a dialogue that teaches
with love and wisdom, young fathers
need help. Children should be seen holding their
fathers hands, sitting on their laps and involved in
activities that build critical thinking skills, encourage
problem solving abilities and promote higher order
thinking that creates language development, increased
vocabulary and appreciation for being intelligent.

“People say that if you find water rising up to your ankle,
that’s the time to do something about it, not when it’s
around your neck.” Chinua Achebe
African American communities are finding crime and
death inching around their necks, they should do
something positive about it to make a change in their
communities. When “not snitching” is more important
than a child’s life that was taken by a bullet is the priority
the humanity has been taken away. Human life is not
valued and is less than that of an animal.
Because of continuous generational tragedies young
people of color are thereby increasing their likelihood
of entering correctional facilities, and if daddy is not
there who do kids model except who they see on the
street or movies?

To keep children of color and culture from entering
into the “pipeline” prevention and pro-action is needed.
Fathers are an important part of this effort, fathers need
to be trained and encouraged. Ronnie Cage, community
activist and national trainer for fathers and fathering skills
has encouraged fathers need training to be fathers for
years.
Parenting is a powerful force; parents have a spiritual
connection to their children and a responsibility to raise
them. Research from the University of Maryland (2000)
indicates that, “children who have fathers or father figures
in their lives learn better, have higher self-esteem and
show fewer signs of depression and aggression.”
“…children who identified a father or father figure
scored higher on basic learning skill tests and had
a stronger sense of competence and social acceptance
compared to children without fathers”
(University of Maryland Medical News, 2000).

Fact “Black males represent six percent of the U.S.
population, yet 35 percent
of the prison population and less than two percent
of teachers” Morehouse College Educational
Conference 2009.
All these have an effect on the mental and emotional
state of children of color and culture.
In the beginning man was created first to care for the
world, so men must take the lead and be a part of
their children’s lives before cemeteries and prisons
have more children
in them than schools and playgrounds.

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May 19, 2016

Influenced by Malcolm X

How Not To Get Your Child Killed In The Streets

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The blog is dedicated to Malcolm X whose
wisdom and knowledge resonate even in the
21st century…..
Happy Birthday Malcolm X May 19th…..

“Education is our passport to the future, for
tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for
it today.” Malcolm X

The continuous murders of young people have
families, citizens and communities demanding
that the killings stop. The senseless taking
of lives and the gun violence that seems to
have no end.
The tradegy is that this will continue unless
parents not police start taking responsibility
for their responsibilities to be parents, not
friends, buddies, BFF’s or any other name that
is not associated with parenting.

EVeryone is wondering what has happened to the
morality of our youth, teens and young adults,
but too many are not looking in the parental
mirrors or accountablity and responsibility as
a parentm that parents should have.
Children learn from their parents, if a parent
allows their children to go out at night
after a “resonable” time then what do you expect to
happen. If a parent allows their 2, 3, 4, 5, 6
year old to talk to them any way and thinks that
is cute, what will happen when the child turns
into a pre-teen, a teen and then a young adult?
If the parent allows profanity, complacency and
irresponsibility into their
homes what do they think will happen to the lives
of their children?

This is not to say that there are perfect parents,
this is to say there should be common sense and
parenting learned from the elders. No one listens to
the elders, the grandparents the “Big Mamas” and
the wise gran dads that have learned the lessons of
life and have tried to “teach,” “preach,” and guide
during the challenges of life. Have African
Americans discarded their elders and the knowledge
they have and ready to share?

The travesty is that too many young parents do not
have the skills to raise babies because they are still
babies too. Too many African American parents are not
encouraging their children in the area education,
public service, intellectual engagement in libraries,
museums and other places of learning. Parents that
Want to keep their children, teens, youth and young
adults alive, keep them learning in the libraries,
museums and learning centers of their communities
and cities.
Parents do not encourage family time because too many
want party time, play time and other times not dedicated
to bonding in the family, sharing positive things in the
family and the value of education in the family. When
grandmother talks girls should listen, when grandfather
is sharing stories of value, honesty, decency,
unity and cultural achievement boys and young men
should listen.

Technology allows for the wonders of the world to be exposed
in many academic disciplines, youth, teens and young
adults can learn science, medicine, arts, engineering, space
exploration, examining of the world’s oceans, robotics, these
create career opportunities for African American children
that were unseen 10 years ago. African American children
are learning the wrong things and applying the wrong skills
from mass media.
African American boys and young men should be in libraries,
cultural centers studying, learning and engaging with positive
men and women, too many are getting high, having sex,
playing games of death and destruction and disrespecting
themselfs, their parents and their culture doing stupid
stuff that kills time they will never get back.

There are so many careers that allow a African American child
to witness the genetic structure of human beings (DNA). The
ability to clone plants to feed thousand, use a telescope
to expore the universe, using a microscope to study
germs and viruses to learn how to battle cancer, and other things
that kill the human body from infection and invasion.
I have blogged previously “the engagement of technology allows
African American children and children of color to expand their
intellectual, innovative and creative abilities beyond sports,
entertainment and the stereotypical elements that society deems
appropriate for African American children.” How can this change
if parents are happy with letting their chidren get by, get
over, get laid and get high?

People celebrate great men like Malcolm X, seen here speaking
on Economics in this YouTube video, but how many really apply
the learning to actual practice to make serious changes for their
lives and the lives of their children?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UtGPZY4Rr4

African American teens are missing the mark in networking for
jobs, preparing for higher education and searching for
internships and scholarships that open educational and employment
doors. Employers are becoming fearful to hire African American
youth because their online content is smeared with unethical
behaviors and questionable actions. Showing drugs, guns,
engaging in sex with multiple partners and disrespecting
authority. Violence is seen as more enjoying than learning.

The media shows the “bad” sides of many African American youth
as violent, educationally challenged and African American girls
involved in entertainment agendas that show them as sexually
promiscuous, no morals or values, that no business will want
to hire them except the pornography business.Truth be told
this does not apply to most but the media portrays African
American girls do not help themselves when they show the
elements of Sexting to impress others that only see them
as a sexual object.

African Americans only apply what the media lets them witness,
too many African American youth and teens do not know how
to grow a business, if you do not think so, then listen
to children and understand how they wanna be like the “stars”
they see on television and not business owners.
Each “reality televison” show is a reminder that you have
to use the F word, the N word, the B word to your freinds.
It is ok to call them out of their
names, disrespect them and try to destroy them.

In far to many cases intellegence, intellectualism, ethics,
morals and values are being destroyed right before our eyes,
look at the recent murders over the past several months of
young people bearly starting their lives, but having their
lives ended in violence that touches infants, babies, toddlers
and children that either witness it or directly exposed to
family members being involved in some way.

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“My alma mater was books, a good library….
I could spend the rest of my life reading, just satisfying
my curiosity.” Malcolm X

More African American children need to have the idea to own
a business, the passion for learning, reading, literacy
and being life long learners.

Parents have to lay the foundation for success, instead of
purchasing entertainment systems, they will have to change
from entertainment to education.
Purchasing educational software for their children that struggle
with reading and math. Access online tutorial sites where most
are free to use so their children can learn how to use
Microsoft Productivity tools such as Word to create resumes,
write introductory letters to employers, and complete online
employment applications with Browsers.
Youth need to understand the dynamics of PowerPoint, where
they will have to design presentations allowing them to speak
to groups to Market their talents and abilities as future
entrepreneurs.

Educational programs such as STEM and STEAM need
to be supported and encouraged in schools by parents. Using
these models to encourage learning and foster a thirst for
educational preparation. To show African American youth the
options that really are real for careers they can have.

The critical part of any successful educational endeavor is
the involvement of parents. Critical to valuing education,
the empowerment of learning and the direction of continued
educational success are from parents and their collaboration
with teachers and schools. Reading, literacy, comprehension
have not changed in how important they are.
The difference is that too many African American parents are too
busy with their lives to create a learning atmosphere for their
children and participate as well to better themselves.

If African Americans are silent about their educational
thirst they will be ignored and moved from sight. The new jobs
coming to Jacksonville, Detriot, Chicago, Miami, Philadelphia,
etc. will not even consider people of color and culture because
they will see only a people that have criminal records, children
without a daddy that mommies have to take care of with two jobs,
or fathers that struggle to take care of their children selling
drugs because they did not apply themselves in school so they
have to sell drugs to make money to feed themselves and their
families. The jails are the new universities that are
advertising for new residents.

This blog may seem harsh, but how harsh is seeing blood on the
streets, how harsh is it to see mothers crying over their children,
how harsh is it to see infants and children watching as they lower
their parents in a dark, cold pit and how harsh is it
that children, parents and families cannot read on a basic
foundational level to gain literacy and understanding?

How not to get your child killed in the streets relies on the
value parents have on education each and every day. To keep
them away from those situations that create death.

The words by Malcolm X ring true even in the 21st century,
“People don’t realize how a man’s (woman’s) whole life can
be changed by one book.” Malcolm X

“The diversity of an uncomplicated man.”
Wm Jackson about Malcolm X

Malcolm X
http://malcolmx.com/

Biography of Malcolm X
http://www.biography.com/people/malcolm-x-9396195

Malcolm X Biography
http://malcolmx.com/biography/

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