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March 22, 2014

Boys and Girls Club Prevents Bullying, Builds Self-Esteem

Boys and Girls Club Prevents Bullying, Builds Self-Esteem

Building, Prevention and Communication
Talking to teens at the Boys and Girls Club Keystone
Conference at the World Golf Village allowed myself
and other presenters like Derrick Frasier to encourage
over 100 Jacksonville, Nassau, and St. Johns county teens
to accept their diversity, encouraging them to network with
each other, create their own “swag”, build personal self-confidence,
plan for their futures and to always have hope in their
abilities and talents. The conference attended by students
from many of the high schools in Duval County Public Schools
from 9th to 12th grades showed that students in DCPS are
bright, intelligent, eager to learn and have high expectations
for their personal success. These attitudes and actions
continue to encourage me as an educator, parent and community
activist in Jacksonville.

The efforts to prevent bullying have grown from professional
development for teacher to community involvement in workshops,
seminars, conferences and open discussion in public forums like
this leadership conference for teens.

Even in blogs, songs, videos like “Bullies” by Khai Denae
Directed by Amid Mosley

and movies are addressing bullying prevention and building
self-esteem by understanding the warning signs and the long term
effects of bullying, harassment and even cultural racism.
Using the curriculum “I Will Survive Bullying” Bullying is A Choice,
(William Jackson) I engaged in the teens in discussion, role playing
and interaction. To help build self-confidence, self-reflection
on goals and accepting the diversity of their peers and others.

Across the country there are parents working with teachers and
administrators to prevent bullying in schools, on buses, in
communities and even in churches. The Whitehouse has conducted
bullying conferences to gain a better understanding of the role
government should play or even if government has a role in
prevention and education of the growing bullying issue.

State and local legislative bodies have passed ordinances, laws,
revamped policies and procedures because of deaths attributed
to bullying. Law enforcement both local and national have even
created bullying task forces to study incidents, providing hotlines,
web sites and using Social Media. All these efforts are important
and aides to create a climate of pro-action and safety.
These collective efforts are used to prevent bullying, cyberbullying,
harassment and other forms of physical, emotional, mental, cultural,
lifestyle and even work related bullying.

Conferences: the Boys and Girls Club Keystone Conference
embracing the theme: “Be Yourself Everyone Else is Taken”
are important to teach about personal responsibility, importance
for teens to build self-confidence, make a plan for life and personal,
educational, financial and cultural goals.

Speakers like Derrick Frasier passionately shared his life struggles,
challenges and family history in an effort to encourage the youth
attending to look past their challenges and set high goals for
success, to have awesome expectations for their futures and not
to allow anyone, friend, family or foe to put self-doubt, a spirit of
defeat and a sense of hopelessness to enter into their minds.
Mr. Frasier shared the worst to the best, his transcending journey
from disappointment, self-destruction to a powerful will of triumph
and achievement.

The staff, teachers, directors, mentors and support persons involved
in the Boys and Girls Club should be commended and honored for
their untiring dedication and devotion to these and the thousands of
children, youth, teens and young adults that participate in their programs.

Future events like the Youth Life Choices Seminar
(Andrea Maynard –June 21, 2014) and past events of STOP BULLYING
NOW held at the MOSH 2013 (Jacksonville, Florida) are focused on
prevention and building youth, teens and young adults self-esteem.
The community need to support these efforts to affect positive change.

Violence committed on youth like Aria Jewitt resulted in her being
hospitalized: she was grabbed and flung her into a concrete slab
wall resulting in skull fractures and other medical conditions. Aria’s
story is similar to incidents across this nation when bullies feel they
are free to hurt, embarrass, threaten and torture. Prevention
through education and communication is important when students
are faced with threatening situations in their lives at school,
in their communities and even in churches.

Parents must communicate with their children each day, children
must feel comfortable talking to their parents and parents must
listen with understanding, patience and even wisdom to allow their
children to express their feelings.

Young girls are being bullied verbally and physically similar to the
situation of Mantha Giggetts a young lady that has dealt with Bullying
and worked to overcome the stress and other traumas that goes
with bullying and even cyberbullying. Her story is a success; she
overcame bullying even during the ravages to her self-esteem,
her self-worth and even doubting a prosperous future.
Mantha Story Click Here

There are fatalities from bullying; Rebecca Sedwick incident lead
to her committing suicide. Rebecca was subjected to bullying and
cyberbullying. Boys and young men also are tormented and need
support and sympathy, not punishment and abuse.
Parents should be mindful of their children’s social media friends and
connections. Intruders that threaten to cause harm and danger
don’t always enter through the front or back doors of homes, they
can enter in through technology using Social Media platforms that
children, youth, teens and youth adults use in the home.
Rebecca’s case is an opportunity to re-enforce a parent’s responsibility
to be engaged with their children and learn their behaviors so a parent
can provide guidance and support. To be “connected” to their children
not just physically there needs to a cyber-connection and expectation
of communication Rebecca Sedwick – Click Here.

The 2014 Keystone Leadership Conference “Be Yourself Everyone
Else is Taken” – KEYSTONE –The Ultimate Teen Program
Boys and Girls Clubs – Venue – Marriott Renaissance World Golf Village
is a success story that is continuously written, showing that youth and
teens are productive, positive, intelligent and preparing for great futures.

As Mr. Frasier shared with the teens to be “part of something bigger than
they are,” not to wait on heroes to make a change in the world, but to
be that change, be that hero that others can look up to and to be a
role model to youth.”

Using Social Media, follow and continue to support, using the hastag
#BGCNF as the students travel and continue to be empowered and direct
messages @BGCNF…
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Photos of Boys and Girls Club Conference

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