My Quest To Teach

October 12, 2016

Social Media Sex and Daughters

Social Media Sex and Daughters
by William Jackson, M.Ed.
Parent, Educator, Speaker
Community Activist  #MyQuestToTeach

“Fathers if you fail to teach your daughters
the value of their bodies, the awesome
mental capabilities that make them smart
creatives and thought leaders, helping your
daughters to understand their personal sexuality
and seeing their value based on their talents and
abilities not sex. If you fail to teach as fathers,
you may be committing a travesty with life-long
consequences.” William Jackson

As a parent, educator and heavily involved in
Social Media I see the elements of Social Media
Sexting, mental and sexual manipulation, sexual
bullying and self-destruction. Girls and women
must understand that just because you can post
hundreds of “selfies” and “sexties” does not
mean you do so.

Telling your story through your digital content should
come with the knowledge that people will see what
you create and judge you based on the creativity and
innovation you show. This creativity should be done
with wisdom, purpose and common sense.  Parents
make dangerous mistakes by letting their children
have free reign of the Internet without behavioral
expectations and rules. The World Wide Web
can be the Wild Wild West with content that can
range free either on the extreme Left or Right.

There are communities that are represented on
platforms that allow the diversity of the human
mind create places that are comforting and at
the same time can cause the soul to shiver.
Girls especially are attracted to the chance to
“show” themselves beyond their “personalities.”
#ShirleyChisholm
“I’ am, was always will be a catalyst for change”
but that change must be positive and productive.

This blog “Social Media Sex and Daughters” shares
the value of parenting when girls are young and
impressionable, they do not understand the value
to share that they are more than their bodies. There
is more to girls than a size, color, a shape, cleavage,
or how sexy they can look. Perceptions are dangerous
in the digital age. Fathers must be sure to teach their
daughters the “tricks” of the game boys will use to get
into their daughters __________.

A father has a responsibility not to scare their daughters,
but to educate them on sex and sexuality. Mothers count,
but they are not men.  Daughters cannot afford to learn
from their friends either boys or girls to protect their
“pocketbooks” as the senior women like to reference.
What is private, is private and should be protected….

Social Media provides wonderful networking, and
communication opportunities, girls and women are
participating in coding – Black Girls Code, learning
how to use tech to be entrepreneurs while attending
conferences like Blogging While Brown, networking
in groups like Black Girls Rock, learning socialization
skills in groups like  Girls Inc, Journey Into Womanhood
Empowerment Resources (Jacksonville, Florida) and
Black Girls Book Club.

The online development of collaboration and connectivity
grows to help girls grow cognitively and raise their
self-esteems and self-respect. No longer do girls and
women say tech is just for boys and men, girls
and women are coding, creating dynamic content,
writing books, managing publishing companies. Girls
are thought leaders, and entrepreneurs, Black girls
can proudly claim their BLERD and Geek profiles.
African girls and women are growing into AfiBlerds
and AfriGeeks proudly earning degrees, they are
owning businesses like Anie Akpe, CEO/Publisher
of http://innov8tiv.com/

My Black Matters ‏@MyBlackMatters “All Black girls
matter whether they’re dark skin, light skin, brown
skin, mixed, hood, nerdy, preppy, loud, quiet or ratchet.”

Business opportunities are increasing so girls and
women should not focus on their body image they
should focus on their Brand and the Marketing aspects.
Women are networking, they are serving on boards,
in committees, forming nonprofits, and educational
initiatives.
Their Brands are worth more than gold, it is the
foundation of their existence and should always be
treated respectfully.
Girls like Jacksonville’s Taylor Richardson and
Natalie McGriff and others are inspiring other
girls to grasp hold of their dreams and grow wings
to fly beyond societal limitations and
exceed expectations no matter color and culture.

nat and taylor 2

Fathers must have those conversations about
pride, hard work, dignity, trust, ethics, morals
and values. Parents must monitor their daughter’s
online activities, not out of fear, but to preserve
reputations and the developing Brands of the
future. It must be taught that, ”sex is a
temporary physical manifestation of temporary
pleasure that if unchecked can be dangerous and
self-destructive.”

Social Media is shaping the way girls and women
are viewing themselves and interacting with
each other. “There are generations coming up
that will not know a time without being connected.
” William Jackson, Edward Waters College 2016

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Advertisers know this and will market “sexulization
of girls” through advertising. Talking about sex
and sexuality should be a discussion not a scare
tactic. Parents should share
the reality of pornography, it is not the sensual
event of dreams; it can be violent, degrading and
demeaning.
Girls and women will not get cultural and educational
validation by having multiple sexual partners. The
marketing aspect too look hot, be popular, risque,
sexy, vulnerable/aggressive, girls of color and
culture are not presented in positive situations
when it comes to sex like their white counterparts.

Parents of all colors and culture start early and
have conversations so girls feel comfortable,
confident in who they are and where
they are going in life. Parents talk to your daughters
as they mature, have honest and tough discussions.
Before any girl or young woman gets into bed with
anyone, even in alternative lifestyle’s they need
to get into that persons head first to make sure
they are not making a mistake that will curse them
through adult life.
A girl’s reputation can be destroyed with a single
video, a single picture posted online and even a flash
of experimentation. Put your value ahead of being
popular, being seen as sexy and been just seen as
who you are and what your aspiring to be.

Girls are growing into not just Black Girl Magic or
Women Magic, but Awesome Women of Magic.

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Black Girl Magic and Women Magic Resources:
Jalesa Ann @jalesaann
Anie Akpe @AnieAkpe
Fran Siracusa @ProfeEdTech
Melanin Mamis @melaninmamis
#EduMatch @edu_match
Michelle @Michell49246814
Ashley Hill @prepforcollege
#EdWalk 4 CFE @zansari8
Black Girl Nerds @BlackGirlNerds
Black Girls Book Club @bg_bookclub
Bess Auer @Bess_Auer
Sarah Thomas @sarahdateechur
Rusul الربيعي @RusulAlrubail
Barbara KV Johnson @DrBKVJ
Rachel Vitti @rachelvitti
Tara Reed @TaraReed_
Jennifer Williams @JenWilliamsEdu
Black Girl Nerds @BlackGirlNerds
Valerie Lewis @iamvlewis
Jedidah Isler, PhD @JedidahIslerPhD
Gina Humber @ghumber720
Melissa Ross @MelissainJax
Ale’ta Turner @AletaTurner
Sherry Smith Gray @sherisaid
Soumya @SoumyaNukala
Deena Pierott @deenapierott
SocaMom® @SocaMomDC
Empowerment Resources @EmpowermentJax
Ronique Gibson @stagetecture
Coach Jeanna Brown @CoachJeanna
Hey Black Girl @Hey_BlackGirl
PASSION4CHRIST @p4cToyaG
Mickee Brown @MickeeBrown
Black Bloggers Connect @JoinBBC
My Black Matters ‏@MyBlackMatters
Danyelle Little @TheCubicleChick
Asktnd @asktnd
FLBlogCon @FLBlogCon
Ivy Box™ @MsIvyBox
Blogging Black Miami @blogblackmiami
Brown Girls Unite @BGU_Official
Tracee Ellis Ross @TraceeEllisRoss
Marcie Hill @Marcie_Hill
Sheena White @sheenamwhite
Sea World Mommy @SeaWorldMommy
Sili @MyMamihood
Blogger Week @BloggerWeek
African Women In Tech @AfricanWIT

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My daughter and I years ago in Palatka, Florida

March 22, 2014

Boys and Girls Club Prevents Bullying, Builds Self-Esteem

Boys and Girls Club Prevents Bullying, Builds Self-Esteem

Building, Prevention and Communication
Talking to teens at the Boys and Girls Club Keystone
Conference at the World Golf Village allowed myself
and other presenters like Derrick Frasier to encourage
over 100 Jacksonville, Nassau, and St. Johns county teens
to accept their diversity, encouraging them to network with
each other, create their own “swag”, build personal self-confidence,
plan for their futures and to always have hope in their
abilities and talents. The conference attended by students
from many of the high schools in Duval County Public Schools
from 9th to 12th grades showed that students in DCPS are
bright, intelligent, eager to learn and have high expectations
for their personal success. These attitudes and actions
continue to encourage me as an educator, parent and community
activist in Jacksonville.

The efforts to prevent bullying have grown from professional
development for teacher to community involvement in workshops,
seminars, conferences and open discussion in public forums like
this leadership conference for teens.

Even in blogs, songs, videos like “Bullies” by Khai Denae
Directed by Amid Mosley

and movies are addressing bullying prevention and building
self-esteem by understanding the warning signs and the long term
effects of bullying, harassment and even cultural racism.
Using the curriculum “I Will Survive Bullying” Bullying is A Choice,
(William Jackson) I engaged in the teens in discussion, role playing
and interaction. To help build self-confidence, self-reflection
on goals and accepting the diversity of their peers and others.

Across the country there are parents working with teachers and
administrators to prevent bullying in schools, on buses, in
communities and even in churches. The Whitehouse has conducted
bullying conferences to gain a better understanding of the role
government should play or even if government has a role in
prevention and education of the growing bullying issue.

State and local legislative bodies have passed ordinances, laws,
revamped policies and procedures because of deaths attributed
to bullying. Law enforcement both local and national have even
created bullying task forces to study incidents, providing hotlines,
web sites and using Social Media. All these efforts are important
and aides to create a climate of pro-action and safety.
These collective efforts are used to prevent bullying, cyberbullying,
harassment and other forms of physical, emotional, mental, cultural,
lifestyle and even work related bullying.

Conferences: the Boys and Girls Club Keystone Conference
embracing the theme: “Be Yourself Everyone Else is Taken”
are important to teach about personal responsibility, importance
for teens to build self-confidence, make a plan for life and personal,
educational, financial and cultural goals.


Speakers like Derrick Frasier passionately shared his life struggles,
challenges and family history in an effort to encourage the youth
attending to look past their challenges and set high goals for
success, to have awesome expectations for their futures and not
to allow anyone, friend, family or foe to put self-doubt, a spirit of
defeat and a sense of hopelessness to enter into their minds.
Mr. Frasier shared the worst to the best, his transcending journey
from disappointment, self-destruction to a powerful will of triumph
and achievement.


The staff, teachers, directors, mentors and support persons involved
in the Boys and Girls Club should be commended and honored for
their untiring dedication and devotion to these and the thousands of
children, youth, teens and young adults that participate in their programs.


Future events like the Youth Life Choices Seminar
(Andrea Maynard –June 21, 2014) and past events of STOP BULLYING
NOW held at the MOSH 2013 (Jacksonville, Florida) are focused on
prevention and building youth, teens and young adults self-esteem.
The community need to support these efforts to affect positive change.

Violence committed on youth like Aria Jewitt resulted in her being
hospitalized: she was grabbed and flung her into a concrete slab
wall resulting in skull fractures and other medical conditions. Aria’s
story is similar to incidents across this nation when bullies feel they
are free to hurt, embarrass, threaten and torture. Prevention
through education and communication is important when students
are faced with threatening situations in their lives at school,
in their communities and even in churches.

Parents must communicate with their children each day, children
must feel comfortable talking to their parents and parents must
listen with understanding, patience and even wisdom to allow their
children to express their feelings.

Young girls are being bullied verbally and physically similar to the
situation of Mantha Giggetts a young lady that has dealt with Bullying
and worked to overcome the stress and other traumas that goes
with bullying and even cyberbullying. Her story is a success; she
overcame bullying even during the ravages to her self-esteem,
her self-worth and even doubting a prosperous future.
Mantha Story Click Here

There are fatalities from bullying; Rebecca Sedwick incident lead
to her committing suicide. Rebecca was subjected to bullying and
cyberbullying. Boys and young men also are tormented and need
support and sympathy, not punishment and abuse.
Parents should be mindful of their children’s social media friends and
connections. Intruders that threaten to cause harm and danger
don’t always enter through the front or back doors of homes, they
can enter in through technology using Social Media platforms that
children, youth, teens and youth adults use in the home.
Rebecca’s case is an opportunity to re-enforce a parent’s responsibility
to be engaged with their children and learn their behaviors so a parent
can provide guidance and support. To be “connected” to their children
not just physically there needs to a cyber-connection and expectation
of communication Rebecca Sedwick – Click Here.

The 2014 Keystone Leadership Conference “Be Yourself Everyone
Else is Taken” – KEYSTONE –The Ultimate Teen Program
Boys and Girls Clubs – Venue – Marriott Renaissance World Golf Village
is a success story that is continuously written, showing that youth and
teens are productive, positive, intelligent and preparing for great futures.

As Mr. Frasier shared with the teens to be “part of something bigger than
they are,” not to wait on heroes to make a change in the world, but to
be that change, be that hero that others can look up to and to be a
role model to youth.”

Using Social Media, follow and continue to support, using the hastag
#BGCNF as the students travel and continue to be empowered and direct
messages @BGCNF…
More Photos located at:
Photos of Boys and Girls Club Conference

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