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June 1, 2018

Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children

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Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children
William Jackson, #MyQuestToTeach
Father, Mentor, Community Activist, Educator

Fathers, as the school year comes to a close continue to
teach your children to apply what they learned in school
so they can make learning relevant. Help them to apply the
academic lessons to think for themselves and make personal
choices that are positive. Even if their friends are opposite
and oppose them, one mistake can ruin and change a life for
a life time.

Fathers, teach your children to be accountable and responsible,
teach them to be independent thinkers and understand how
important their dreams are. There are many lessons to learn
so be patient and purposeful, be aware that sometimes your
children think different than you do and react different
depending on the situation and the stress.

Not all children learn to tie their shoes at the same time,
not all children stop sucking their fingers at the same
time. Patience, purpose and prayer do work even in the 21st
century.

Your presence as a parent, father guardian, mentor and
prayer do matter. Never forget that your children look to you
for guidance even if they do not say anything.
Actions speak louder than words, so guard not just your
mouth, but your actions and interactions in the community.

Some personal observations as a parent…….
1.Fathers don’t allow yourself and your children to grow stale
or stagnant, always embrace learning opportunities. Attend
community, civic and even political events to teach your
children civic duty and community activism.
2. Fathers teach your children to stay away from people who
hate on others, gossip, conspire against, plot and plan to
embarrass or even destroy. Those that hate on others often
have low self esteem and unhappy emotionally.
3. Fathers teach your children that sex is not a conquest
or a quick one sided pleasure. There are consequences and
reactions to having multiple sexual partners.
4. Father teach your children that sex is not a tool to get
what you want in life. That the mind and emotions are changed
forever when involved in sexual encounters with multiple
people. Not everyone is emotionally ready for sex at the
same time.
5. Fathers teach your children what comes out of their
mouths defines them and Brands them. The mouth can speak
life or death.
6. Fathers teach your daughters they don’t need a sugar
daddy, pimp daddy or friend with benefits to make it in life.
Teach them early that they are smart, creative, innovative
and brilliant.
7. Fathers teach your sons and daughters that before they get
into someone’s bed, be sure to get into their head. They must
have some common grounds for growth and life.
There is a personal responsibility when having sex and not
building a relationship.
8. Fathers teach your sons not to use women for sex, drugs,
money or create illegitimate children that they have no
plans to support and love. The children created will grow
to be angry, uncertain about who they are and where in life
they are going.
9. Fathers teach your children how to love, how to respect and
the value of morals and values. Teach your children the
empowerment of education not just in the classroom, but to
be life-long learners.
10. Fathers teach your children the dangers of “playing” with
drugs and alcohol. Not everyone can tolerate getting drunk
and getting high.
11. Fathers show up at your children’s school several times a
year, show them better than you can tell them you value
their education, respect teachers, eating lunch with them
and going on field trips.
12. Fathers if “Lives Matter” they should learn that from
birth and through your involvement and actions.
13. Fathers teach your children about the true meaning of
hate, racism, bigotry, prejudice and bias. Do not sugarcoat it.
Raise your child to be a benefit to society not a danger or
future media sacrifice.
14. Fathers teach your children they will not stay children
forever, as they grow to enjoy life and living. To learn
skills that build their character and value for life.
15. Fathers watch the news with your children
and explain events around the world. Get them to talk
about what they think and feel.
16. Fathers even if your not in the home plan to make time
and make time to plan what your doing.
17. Fathers even if you start with 10.00 start a bank account
for your child. Teach them to invest in themselves.
18. Fathers create a mindset of growth and progress.
Show your kids that you have dreams and aspirations
beyond where you are now. No matter your past you’re
reaching for a better life.
19. Fathers the future is not predictable, but have a plan
for the future for your kids. Start a college fund or a business
fund. Put money aside even if it is 5.00 per month because your
children will need to continue their education past high school.
20. Fathers visit a doctor if not regularly, occassionally. Be
proactive in your health because not knowing if you have
high blood pressur, diabetes, or any other life challenges may
create burdens on your family. Medical issues can keep you from
being the dad you want to be and the dad your kids need you
to be.
21. Fathers reflect on the hard lessons you learned and
share them with you children. Teach them that lessons can help
them to grow even if they stuggle.
22. Fathers teach your children that struggles and challenges
are a part of life and that they can survive and grow from
them.
23. Fathers teach your children the value of prayer, why
prayer is helpful. Guide their learning in ministry not
just attending church.
24. Fathers join a support group, mentoring group for yourself.

Blogging at: My Quest To Teach   #MyQuestToTeach
http://MyQuestToTeach.WordPress.com/
Twitter: wmjackson
Instagram: http://Instagram.com/WilliamDJackson

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September 10, 2017

Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children in 2017

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Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children in 2017

by William Jackson, #MyQuestToTeach
Father, Community Activist, Educator

Fathers this school year or 2017/2018 empower
your children with social and personal skills that
will prepare them for a changing and dynamic
world in and out of school.
Teach children to think for themselves and make
personal decisions even if their friends are opposite
and oppose them.
Even if your children are met with bullying and
criticism, your children must be prepared mentally,
emotionally and with social skills that help them
not only “code switch,” but adapt and excel in
diverse environments.
Teach your children to be accountable and respon-
sible, teach them to be independent thinkers
and how important their dreams are. There are
many lessons to learn by your children so be
patient and purposeful, be aware that sometimes
your children think different and react different
than their peers and their friends.
Not all children learn to tie their shoes at the same
time.
I still teach kindergarten and first grade students
at my school how to tie shoes and even occasionally
second graders.
Not all children stop sucking their fingers at the same
time. Patience, purpose and prayer does work even in
the 21st century so even teach your child why prayer
is important not just how to pray.
Every child is different, every smile means something
different, tears do not all mean the same thing and
kids interpret the world differently so fathers must
listen and guide their children to be the best they
can be, not just always the way fathers want them
to be.
We must teach our children patience, and be patient
with them. Teach our children compassion and be
compassionate, we have to show empathy and
sympathy and even kindness. If you don’t  think so,
think about how you treat their mother, because
your sons and even daughters will treat their mothers,
grandmothers, future boy friends/girl friends and
spouses the way you demonstrate and teach.

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Suggestions for fathers………..
1.Fathers don’t allow yourself and your children to
grow stale or stagnant, always embrace learning and
opportunities to attend community, civic and even
political events to teach your children on a broad
scale of duty and community activism.
2. Fathers teach your children to stay away from
people who hate on others, gossip, conspire against,
plot and plan to embarrass or even destroy. Those
that hate on others often have low self esteem and
will turn on those that side with them eventually.
3. Fathers teach your children that sex is not a conquest
or a quick one sided pleasure. There are consequences
and reactions to having multiple sexual partners.
4. Father teach your children that sex is not a tool to
get what you want in life. That the mind and emotions
are changed forever when involved in sexual encounters
with multiple people.
Not everyone is emotionally ready for sex at the same
time.
5. Fathers teach your children what comes out of their
mouth defines them and Brands them. The mouth can
speak life or death.
6. Fathers teach your daughters they don’t need a sugar
daddy, pimp daddy or friend with benefits to make it in
life. Having multiple “baby daddies” is nothing to be
proud of.
7. Fathers teach your sons and daughters that before
they get into someones bed, be sure to get into their
head to see if they are being used. There is a personal
responsibility when having sex.
8. Fathers teach your sons not to use women for sex,
drugs, money or create illegitimate children that they
have no plans to support and love.
9. Fathers teach your children how to love, how to
respect and the value of morals and values. Teach your
children the empowerment of education not just in the
classroom, but to be life-long learners.
10. Fathers teach your children the dangers of “playing”
with drugs and alcohol. Not everyone can tolerate getting
drunk and getting high.
11. Fathers show up at your children’s school at least
4 times a school year, show them better than you can
tell them you value their education by eating lunch with
them and going on field trips.
12. Fathers if all lives matter they should learn that from
birth.
13. Fathers teach your children about the true meaning
of hate, racism, bigotry, prejudice and bias. Do not
sugarcoat it.
14. Fathers teach your children they will not stay children
forever, but as they grow to enjoy life and living. To learn
skills that build their character and value for life.
15. Fathers watch the news with your children at least
twice a week and explain events around the world. Get
them to talk about what they think and feel.
16. Fathers teach your children no one is perfect and to
strive to be the best they can be not something from a
story or game.
17. Fathers reflect on the hard lessons you learned and
share them with you children. Teach them that lessons
can help them to grow even if they struggle.
18. Fathers teach your children that struggles and
challenges are a part of life and that they can survive and
grow from them.
19. Fathers teach your children the value of prayer, why
prayer is helpful. Guide their learning in ministry not
just attending church.
20 Fathers join a support group, mentoring group for
yourself.

William Jackson, M.Ed.
Community Activist, Father / Fatherhood Advocate
Blogging at: My Quest To Teach
http://MyQuestToTeach.WordPress.com/
Twitter: wmjackson
Instagram: http://Instagram.com/Wifathers3lliamDJackson

 

 

 

November 4, 2016

The Humanity of Fatherhood

The Humanity of Fatherhood
William Jackson, M.Edu
Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach

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Chinua Achebe, “We cannot trample upon
the humanity of others without devaluing our
own.” The Igbo, always practical, put it
concretely in their proverb:
Onye ji onye n’ani ji onwe ya:
“He who will hold another down in the mud
must stay in the mud to keep him down.”
The Education of a British-Protected Child: Essays

“Fathers, it is time to lift our children, our families,
our culture, our communities from the mud
of poverty, death and destruction.”
William Jackson – My Quest To Teach

Watching the media and the continued deaths
of young men and young women, fathers have
a choice to be a blessing or a curse to their
children, to embed humanity into their process
of raising their families. To lead them to a life
of safety and growth or condemn them to
potential sentences of poverty, lack of
educational success and a societal voice of
silence.

Fathers are supposed to be the foundation,
the rock that their families can stand on during
the storms of life and the challenges that they
will face. The national deaths by violence of
children of color and culture are a signal that
too many fathers are not doing their jobs,
importantly too many men are not parenting,
fathering, guiding and mentoring. Too many
are talking, their lips are moving, but their feet
and hearts are standing still. There is work to
do in their communities, but too many fathers
are counterproductive and adding to the
troubles their communities are facing.

 

 

 

Fathers are influential in the social and
educational directions of their children, they set
the tones for social interaction, establishing the
direction of their children and others around
them, growing and developing the social skills
and humbleness that boys and girls developing
into men and women will need. Children are
modeling their father’s activities, mentalities,
their lack of compassion and lack of sensitivities
to their children. The father is the model whether
at home or not, looking at the communities of
color and culture too many fathers are not
involved or do not care.

Social skills are not just necessary social requirements;
they are the patterns of behaviors for survival that boys
and girls of color and culture will need to know in order
to grow in a society that is still struggling with boys and
girls of diversity and color. The directions of life take
many twists and turns for youth especially African
American youth, this is NOT another hate the system
or hate the government blog, nor is it a blog on what
the educational system is not accomplishing.

This blog addresses the responsibilities of “Men in
the Village” to re-evaluate and re-prioritize their thinking
and to be of service to their communities.
The great Nigerian author Chinua Achebe through his
writings tries to teach men that positive emotions to
their children are beneficial and “do not
fear being
thought weak as a man” because men show emotions,
they should to establish a connection with their families.

Men have a right that extends to the accountability and
responsibility to be involved in their children’s educational
growth and development. How can hundreds if not
thousands of men attend sporting events in support
of their children, but cannot consistently volunteer, visit,
mentor, support their children’s schools that are preparing
them for life in this nation?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
Achebe shares, “(fathers) do not show any human emotions
and sentiments so as not to be seen as weak,” are creating
un-caring societies where children are forgetting the value
of love, compassion, sympathy and honor. Men do not have
to cry to show emotions, but should hug and kiss their children,
hold their hands and provide emotional support and
mental comfort just as African men have done for centuries.
How many men can blame the State Attorney’s Office
and law enforcement if they won’t “man up” handling
their “business” and parental responsibilities in raising
their children? Prisons are not Day Cares, Learning
Centers, Enrichment Organizations; how many men can
blame the school district if they have not started the
process of educating their children in the basics of
reading, math and social behaviors at home that allow
for education in a formal setting to start. Learning
starts at home and fathers need to be responsible
for this happening.

The streets, back alleys, street corners and clubs of
our communities will teach skills that will lead to
death or prison as seen in children today, what real
father can be proud of that?

Fathers need to be involved in a dialogue that teaches
with love and wisdom, young fathers
need help. Children should be seen holding their
fathers hands, sitting on their laps and involved in
activities that build critical thinking skills, encourage
problem solving abilities and promote higher order
thinking that creates language development, increased
vocabulary and appreciation for being intelligent.

“People say that if you find water rising up to your ankle,
that’s the time to do something about it, not when it’s
around your neck.” Chinua Achebe
African American communities are finding crime and
death inching around their necks, they should do
something positive about it to make a change in their
communities. When “not snitching” is more important
than a child’s life that was taken by a bullet is the priority
the humanity has been taken away. Human life is not
valued and is less than that of an animal.
Because of continuous generational tragedies young
people of color are thereby increasing their likelihood
of entering correctional facilities, and if daddy is not
there who do kids model except who they see on the
street or movies?

To keep children of color and culture from entering
into the “pipeline” prevention and pro-action is needed.
Fathers are an important part of this effort, fathers need
to be trained and encouraged. Ronnie Cage, community
activist and national trainer for fathers and fathering skills
has encouraged fathers need training to be fathers for
years.
Parenting is a powerful force; parents have a spiritual
connection to their children and a responsibility to raise
them. Research from the University of Maryland (2000)
indicates that, “children who have fathers or father figures
in their lives learn better, have higher self-esteem and
show fewer signs of depression and aggression.”
“…children who identified a father or father figure
scored higher on basic learning skill tests and had
a stronger sense of competence and social acceptance
compared to children without fathers”
(University of Maryland Medical News, 2000).

Fact “Black males represent six percent of the U.S.
population, yet 35 percent
of the prison population and less than two percent
of teachers” Morehouse College Educational
Conference 2009.
All these have an effect on the mental and emotional
state of children of color and culture.
In the beginning man was created first to care for the
world, so men must take the lead and be a part of
their children’s lives before cemeteries and prisons
have more children
in them than schools and playgrounds.

October 7, 2016

Stop Bullying with My Quest To Teach

Stop Bullying with My Quest To Teach 
Video via William Jackson
williamderejackson@gmail.com
My Quest To Teach

Brownsville Church of Christ Prevent Bullying
Brownsville Church of Christ
Back to School – Preventing Bullying 

I have been speaking and presenting on the prevention of Bullying,
Cyberbullying, Sexting and the inappropriate use of texting for
several years.

Through the use of incorporating traditional blogging, video blogging,
Social Media platforms, and other platforms and tools I try to share
the reasons and realistic concerns why children, youth, teens and young
adults bully.

Each incident no matter how small creates an atmosphere of fear and
uncertainty in a young persons perception(s) of safety and even belonging.
Bullying is not a rite of passage to manhood or womanhood, it does not
build character or bonding.

Bullying is hurtful, mean, sad and creates long-term psychological
damage.  Emotional trauma and even the inability to trust and love
has resulted in some cases.

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Students from ACD – Arlington Country Day School
Prevent Bullying Workshop for Middle and High School
via William Jackson  #MyQuestToTeach

Below is a video that was created and produced by myself to show
that bullying should not be tolerated, but it should be treated with
compassion and care.

Links to my bullying blogs over the years are provided.
Feel free to use the resources to empower children, teens and young
adults and even to educate parents. Parents are usually the last to
know that their child is the bully or that their child is being bullied.

Education is important and observation. Parents unfortunately do
not know their children as well as they think they do so the
accumulation and engagement in relationships is important to
establish and maintain between child and parent.

Bullying Presentations
https://wordpress.com/page/myquesttoteach.wordpress.com/259

Building Character and Resources
https://wordpress.com/page/myquesttoteach.wordpress.com/689

Bullying Blogs
https://wordpress.com/page/myquesttoteach.wordpress.com/3530

Video via William Jackson
My Quest To Teach
Parent, Educator, Blogger
Community Activist

September 28, 2016

Dads Take Your Child to School Day

Dads Take Your Child to School Day
by William Jackson, M.Edu.
Instructor with Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach
Daddy Blogger – Community Activist – Educator
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The Florida Department of Education initiative:
Dads Take Your Child to School Day! The Department
of Family and Community Engagement is partnering on
this initiative. This event is similar to the Million Father
March that was held on the first day of school nationally.

As part of  this initiative, fathers are asked to show their child
that they value and support their education by bringing them
to school on Wednesday, September 28th and that they
commit to being involved in their learning throughout the year.

This is a great opportunity to increase parental engagement,
especially among fathers, for the entire 2016-17 school year.
Last year, fathers, grandfathers, foster fathers, stepfathers,
uncles, cousins, big brothers, male caregivers, mentors and
family friends all showed their support for students across
the state through their participation. The excitement for
many students is continuing to blossom and the work
continues for academic growth and success. Fathers are
very important in the process of education, helping in laying
a foundation for the importance of maturing academically
and socially. Being a father requires continuous giving,
generosity, kindness, compassion, empathy, love and
dedication to another life besides their own.

Education is a life-long process that is influenced by
parental priorities and influence.

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“Fathers can and do change the world one child
at a time.” William Jackson, M.Edu.

These are suggestions from a father, educator, and
community activist to encourage fathers to
participate and be engaged in the educational
process of their children from early childhood to
higher education.

1. Fathers respect your child’s teacher(s)

One way to support education is to model respect for
teachers and administrators. Fathers speak more by
their actions than words, so visit schools and praise
teachers and administrators.
2. Fathers spend time in the school
Even though it might be tough to visit schools at
least once a month it makes a world of difference
in a child’s behavior and academic success. Spending
time means sacrificing a lunch time, overtime or
buddy time. The rewards are great, just look in
your child’s eyes and see.
3. Fathers listen to teachers not talk at them
Sometimes it is more valuable to listen than to speak.
Fathers must trust teachers to tell them the truth about
their children even if the truth hurts or challenges
making changes to discipline, doing homework,
requiring tutors or not participating in sports or after
school activities. The priority of school is education.
4. Fathers discipline with Love
Many of us have humorous stories of being disciplined
when we were of youthful vigor and energy. We
understood later we were wrong in some of our actions
and choices and that discipline was done with love.
So fathers must continue to have love in their hearts
and minds and discipline fairly and with love.
5. Fathers are Role Models
Fathers are the first role models, even when we don’t
think our kids are watching, they are and other kids do
too. So our actions speak louder than words. We can’t
say “do as I say and not do as I do” because we
send the wrong messages and set our actions and
words up to be hypocritical and without meaning.
6. Fathers are Teachers
When a father teaches it is by his actions not always
by his words. The first teacher should be the child’s
parents. They establish the foundation for future success.
Even if not a great student in school fathers can teach
their children from their mistakes to help their children
to be better academically and socially.

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7. Fathers  should share meals
A great time to share is when eating together. This is a
relaxing time to joke, share, encourage, engage in fun
conversation. Sharing meals should not be serious times,
but memorable ones starting with prayer.
Communication should be two ways that encourage the
kids to ask questions too.
8. Fathers Read to their Children
When my children where toddlers until middle school
their mother and I read to them at various times  during
the day and when it was bed time. This created an
atmosphere where reading was fun. When
they were able to we allowed them to read to us. Even
though we divorced I still read to my children to keep
the consistency and fun of it. Fathers that are not strong
readers should read to their level and build as their
children build. Learning together should not be an
embarrassment it should be a cooperative effort to
show comprehension and literacy are vital.
9. Fathers Show Affection
Fathers cannot afford to be “hard” and unemotional,
this creates unstable emotional behaviors in children
that cause confusion and conflicting emotions for
stability and expression. Fathers have to model love,
proper affection, sensitivity, common sense,
compassion, tenderness. These are what children
need to learn to function in society.
10. Fathers Job is Never Done
At the time of this writing 2016 both my children
are in college, working, driving and in some
capacity they are still dependent on me. Fathering
is a lifelong responsibility even when children are
maturing into adults themselves. Fathers are the
cushions, the barriers that God has placed to make
the world less scary, less threatening and less
depressing when the challenges of life attack
our children.

Children need to know that daddy will be there
not just for money, but for encouragement, advice,
praise, love, prayers and sometimes just a silent
shoulder to listen and arms for reassuring hugs.
Fathers you must decide what kind of father you
want to be, it is a choice and personal decision.
Don’t try to be like any other father but who you
are. Don’t be fake, foolish or fraud, your children
will see right through you.
It is ok to be scared, nervous and apprehensive,
no one has all the answers, you have more life
experiences than your children so use that to
build on as a foundation of support and love.

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Resources:
“The Talk” with your kids:
http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/09/05/345891814/whats-your-take-on-nprthetalk  how to make sure your  child comes home.

 

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