My Quest To Teach

September 28, 2016

Dads Take Your Child to School Day

Dads Take Your Child to School Day
by William Jackson, M.Edu.
Instructor with Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach
Daddy Blogger – Community Activist – Educator
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The Florida Department of Education initiative:
Dads Take Your Child to School Day! The Department
of Family and Community Engagement is partnering on
this initiative. This event is similar to the Million Father
March that was held on the first day of school nationally.

As part of  this initiative, fathers are asked to show their child
that they value and support their education by bringing them
to school on Wednesday, September 28th and that they
commit to being involved in their learning throughout the year.

This is a great opportunity to increase parental engagement,
especially among fathers, for the entire 2016-17 school year.
Last year, fathers, grandfathers, foster fathers, stepfathers,
uncles, cousins, big brothers, male caregivers, mentors and
family friends all showed their support for students across
the state through their participation. The excitement for
many students is continuing to blossom and the work
continues for academic growth and success. Fathers are
very important in the process of education, helping in laying
a foundation for the importance of maturing academically
and socially. Being a father requires continuous giving,
generosity, kindness, compassion, empathy, love and
dedication to another life besides their own.

Education is a life-long process that is influenced by
parental priorities and influence.

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“Fathers can and do change the world one child
at a time.” William Jackson, M.Edu.

These are suggestions from a father, educator, and
community activist to encourage fathers to
participate and be engaged in the educational
process of their children from early childhood to
higher education.

1. Fathers respect your child’s teacher(s)

One way to support education is to model respect for
teachers and administrators. Fathers speak more by
their actions than words, so visit schools and praise
teachers and administrators.
2. Fathers spend time in the school
Even though it might be tough to visit schools at
least once a month it makes a world of difference
in a child’s behavior and academic success. Spending
time means sacrificing a lunch time, overtime or
buddy time. The rewards are great, just look in
your child’s eyes and see.
3. Fathers listen to teachers not talk at them
Sometimes it is more valuable to listen than to speak.
Fathers must trust teachers to tell them the truth about
their children even if the truth hurts or challenges
making changes to discipline, doing homework,
requiring tutors or not participating in sports or after
school activities. The priority of school is education.
4. Fathers discipline with Love
Many of us have humorous stories of being disciplined
when we were of youthful vigor and energy. We
understood later we were wrong in some of our actions
and choices and that discipline was done with love.
So fathers must continue to have love in their hearts
and minds and discipline fairly and with love.
5. Fathers are Role Models
Fathers are the first role models, even when we don’t
think our kids are watching, they are and other kids do
too. So our actions speak louder than words. We can’t
say “do as I say and not do as I do” because we
send the wrong messages and set our actions and
words up to be hypocritical and without meaning.
6. Fathers are Teachers
When a father teaches it is by his actions not always
by his words. The first teacher should be the child’s
parents. They establish the foundation for future success.
Even if not a great student in school fathers can teach
their children from their mistakes to help their children
to be better academically and socially.

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7. Fathers  should share meals
A great time to share is when eating together. This is a
relaxing time to joke, share, encourage, engage in fun
conversation. Sharing meals should not be serious times,
but memorable ones starting with prayer.
Communication should be two ways that encourage the
kids to ask questions too.
8. Fathers Read to their Children
When my children where toddlers until middle school
their mother and I read to them at various times  during
the day and when it was bed time. This created an
atmosphere where reading was fun. When
they were able to we allowed them to read to us. Even
though we divorced I still read to my children to keep
the consistency and fun of it. Fathers that are not strong
readers should read to their level and build as their
children build. Learning together should not be an
embarrassment it should be a cooperative effort to
show comprehension and literacy are vital.
9. Fathers Show Affection
Fathers cannot afford to be “hard” and unemotional,
this creates unstable emotional behaviors in children
that cause confusion and conflicting emotions for
stability and expression. Fathers have to model love,
proper affection, sensitivity, common sense,
compassion, tenderness. These are what children
need to learn to function in society.
10. Fathers Job is Never Done
At the time of this writing 2016 both my children
are in college, working, driving and in some
capacity they are still dependent on me. Fathering
is a lifelong responsibility even when children are
maturing into adults themselves. Fathers are the
cushions, the barriers that God has placed to make
the world less scary, less threatening and less
depressing when the challenges of life attack
our children.

Children need to know that daddy will be there
not just for money, but for encouragement, advice,
praise, love, prayers and sometimes just a silent
shoulder to listen and arms for reassuring hugs.
Fathers you must decide what kind of father you
want to be, it is a choice and personal decision.
Don’t try to be like any other father but who you
are. Don’t be fake, foolish or fraud, your children
will see right through you.
It is ok to be scared, nervous and apprehensive,
no one has all the answers, you have more life
experiences than your children so use that to
build on as a foundation of support and love.

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Resources:
“The Talk” with your kids:
http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/09/05/345891814/whats-your-take-on-nprthetalk  how to make sure your  child comes home.

 

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September 7, 2016

The Alphabet of Fatherhood Can Be Awesome

The Alphabet of Fatherhood Can Be Awesome
by William Jackson, M. Ed.
Parent, Educator, Blogger,
Speaker, Community Activist
@wmjackson Edward Waters College

A Fathers Role

A Fathers Role

Suggestions for new dads and dads that need to
be re-energized to their responsibility as fathers.

Fathers need to take advantage of community
resources for several reasons: children need to
be exposed to diverse learning opportunities
like libraries, museums and cultural events.
The language engagement between fathers and
children is important, it helps build vocabulary
and encourages questioning and
increases observation.

Children need to feel comfortable asking their
parents questions, their opinions to understand
they have value and their curiosity is encouraged.
Mothers are not the only ones that build a bond
with children, a fathers bond is just as important
and significant. Fathers should never doubt they
are important and valuable. Never allow anyone
to demean your importance and significance in
your child’s life. You are part of the creative
process for life.

A. Fact – fathers spend about 45% playing
while moms only spend 15-20%.
B. Dads should help in getting the kids
ready for the day. Create a unique routine
that kids look forward to. This will make
getting ready less stressful.

C. Dads should learn about their child’s
development so they better understand
when to “teach” certain skills. Playing
catch, tying shoes and other things are a
process that is taught according to the
developmentally able child. Children learn
differently so don’t compare your kid to
others even their siblings.
D. Fathers should have time to read to
their children. Dads can make a special
language and storytelling trip for their
children. A dad’s voice is security and
comfort to the child.

E. Dads should make special trips to book
stories, libraries and museums. Make
learning unique and fun. Dads can plan
field trips during the weekends and
holidays.
F. Dads need to know their children’s
interests as they mature. Learning as
much as possible about their children
and not allowing mom’s to do and
know everything. Brake the mindset
that dads are less important.

G. Dads should know what foods their
kids like. Take them to the store and
shop with them. Make sure they
communicate with you about their
likes and dislikes. Their “tastes” will
change as they age and mature.
H. Dads need to be familiar with their
children’s sleep patterns. Give mom
a break and help to keep sleep time,
nap time consistent.

I. Dads need to spend time with their
newborns. A dads smell, voice and
hugs need to be comforting to newborns.
J. Dads need to understand that the first
months of a newborns life are key to
bonding with their parents. Dads should
plan ahead to take paternity leave if
possible, use vacation time or other
options to stay home and help mom
and child adjust to the new world.

K. Dads need to learn their child’s
behaviors and their developing personality.
What activities make the newborn, toddler
or growing child laugh, happy, sad, scared,
excited, etc.
L. Dads need to be a part of the educational
and developmental process of their children.
Mothers have careers and fathers need to
respect the fact that mom’s love their children,
but may want to continue their careers.

M. When the child is school aged dads need
to be there every step of the way. Teachers,
administrators, and other school personnel need
to know that children have two parents even if they
are not in the same home.
N. Children need to see their parents working, they
need to see their parents communicating and being
active. Too many times parents “hide” their emotions
which causes confusion in children.

O. Dads and moms need to monitor television
watching. There are so many suggestions and innuendos
that will cause confusion and doubt in girls and boys
about their bodies, culture, skin care, height, weight
and other physical attributes. Parents are the first line
of knowledge that builds self-esteem and self-respect.
P. A fathers words can bring life and death to their
children.
Fathers should be careful what they say to their children
and how they say it, even how they talk about their mother
and other family members

Q. Fathers should be listeners first and fixers second.
Fathers are instinctively fixers of problems for their
children and families.
The important part is fathers should listen first to get
all the information needed and involve their children
in the fixing process. Fathers take the opportunity to
include their children if old enough to fix any problems
that are teachable moments.
R. Dads should not be scared to “play” with their children.
When the opportunity comes play is beneficial, it can
build confidence, trust, love, respect and solidify a
relationship.

S. “Know Thy Self” dads should know their maturity,
their strengths and weaknesses. Understand what
drives you and moves you. “Before you start raising
children look at your foundation.”
Nishan Nicks (Fresh World Ministries)
T. Communication is important between parents,
moms and dads need to be open and honest when
talking about parental responsibilities. They both must
understand that their children are living and growing
human beings and will develop their own personality.
They will not stay the same forever and time
does fly by when you have children.

U. Fathers take care of your bodies, your minds
and your spirit. You are responsible for more
than yourself. Visit the doctors regularly and
change your eating habits and late night activities.
V. Fathers plan for the future. Plan for your
retirement, your kid’s educational future, the growth
of the family.
Take into account a potential career change for
yourself. Money is not the only cause for a job or
career change. Support your spouses or partners
desire to improve their education and career as well.

W. Plan vacations that are active and engaging.
Be sure to plan how to pack and if the destinations
are kid friendly. Plan to make sure the trip is beneficial
for your kids and the family not just you.
X. Treat your spouse or partner to some personal time.
Allow them to grow outside of parenthood to refresh
their spirit and mind.

Y. Don’t forget the grandparents in visits and trips, they
can be a partnership also.
Z. Be a parent, not a buddy. As your child grows so
will you and you must modify your parenting discipline,
language, expectations. There are no “perfect” parents.
You will make mistakes. Just do your best and learn
as you go.

Resources:
The Father Effect @thefathereffect

GetConnectDAD @GetConnectDad

Dad 2.0 Summit @dad2summit

Daddydaddydaddy @daddydaddydadus

Melanin Bloggers @MelaninBloggers

Roland Martin and T.D. Jakes
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LEXpdvR1Dqw

Dad Summit https://twitter.com/dad2summit

Born Learning http://BornLearning.org

The role of being a father with Roland Martin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTdmfBeWlKU

Change the Discussion on Black Fathers
http://www.quirkybrownlove.com/2015/05/change-discussion-on-black-fathers.html

Summit Schedule for Dads 2.0 Conference
http://www.dad2summit.com/schedule2017/

June 29, 2016

Summer Reading and Writing; Learning Does Not Stop

Summer Reading and Writing; Learning Does Not Stop
William Jackson, M.Ed.
Edward Waters College
#MyQuestToTeach

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BlackGirlMagic Magazine
@BlkGirlMagicMag Twitter
#BlackGirlMagic Hashtag
http://www.blackgirlmagicmag.com/ Web Site
We are looking for works about and by
Black Women

This blog is not about just one color or
culture, but about the value and importance
of reading, literacy, comprehension and
creativity of writing for all children.

The summer has made its appearance and
kids are excited about the opportunities of
“freedom” from schools across the nation.
Parents should still have their children
engaged in learning opportunties by visiting
library events, museum viewings and cultural
events that engage kids with fun
learning activities.

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Reading and writing during the summer are still
important and the the power of the written word
has been seen for thousands of years, individuals
and groups sharing thoughts, ideas, impressions,
feelings and to tell the life histories of
people and cultures.

Children, teens and young adults should be
introduced to writing as a way to learn how to
express their feelings, dreams, passions and
the challenges that they face. Writing can be
used as a coping mechanism and teach how to
manage the emotional diversity of children,
especially children of color and culture.
To develop intellectual thought and creativity.

Various cultures and societies have their
influences in writing as early blogging
(in my humble opinion). Chinese culture
writing was determined to come not from a
god but an ancient sage named Ts’ang Chieh.
He was a minister in the court of the legendary
Huang Ti (Yellow Emperor). While not godly the
invention of writing was supposed to serve as
a communication tool between heaven and earth.
The culture of writing has historical
importance around the world. Diverse
cultures througth history shared their
stories throught storytelling orally until
writing was established and education
advanced.

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#MoxieGirl
The Adventures of Moxie Girl

Blogging on a digital format continues to change
as writing is manipulated, transformed, dissected,
adapted and tailored to the increasing integration
of technology tools and platforms.
The foundation is the human mind that conceives in
thought the words that are transcribed into
written or typed words. In a way these words are
already in an electrical format because
thoughts are generated by the synapses
of the mind, thus electrical impulses
and birthed by the hands onto the materials for
publication.

Formats can be seen from the dynamic
platforms being used from Blogger, WordPress,
Twitter (Microblogging), Tumblr, Google+ and
even Ghost to name a few. Children, youth and
teens can embrace the diversity and creative
characteristics of blogging and learn to be
innovative in their words, phrases and extention
of their views. Writing helps
to develop vocabulary in children, making it
fun to combine words into stories. It is
wonderful to see a teen excited about reading
and the process of writing.

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Astronaut Star Bright @astroStarBright
https://www.facebook.com/astroStarBright/

Looking at the 15 Best Blogging Platforms
(http://thenextweb.com/apps/2013/08/16/best-blogging-services/)
it is clear that blogging will remain as an important
historical tool to share and disseminate information
on multiple levels and students need to learn how
to write, the importance of the
writing process and that it can be fun.

Many children are excited to share their thoughts
with art work and drawing, this is the creative
centers of the brain, writing also encouarges the
mind to form ideas, challenges connections and
breeds innovation. What better way to build
character.

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#BrothasRead Twitter

Children should be taught that not to long ago
it was illegal to teach slaves or those of color,
no matter what color or culture to read and write
during the time of slavery not just in America,
but around the world. Today Blogging is
responsible for showing the world the greatness
of people. There is estimated over 12 million
bloggers in America, African Americans need
to take seriously their ability to share stories.
(The State of Blogging 2014,
Pew Internet & American Life Project)

I always encourage people of color and culture
the beauty in blogging because it allows
the expansion into other areas of digital
communication. A platform of expression on
levels that allow for intellectualism where
students should be moving towards.
Students should understand blogging allows the
writer (them) to be creators in this age of
digital media that is changing social
interaction, allowing for collaboration,
a paradigm in alliances of the mind and taking
social networking to levels of
unprecedented growth.

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Children, teens and young adults, bloggers of
color and culture and those of diverse
languages are important because they create
original content specifically addressing diverse
issues that may never be recognized by
traditional media or ignored
because of a lack of understanding or caring.

No matter the color, culture, gender,
generation and age kids of all ages have
something to say, this summer parents get
your children involved in some type of reading
and writing program to prepare them not
just for the next school year, but for life.

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Resources:

Support Education on Brothas Read
#BrothasRead on Twitter

Barbershop Books
@BarbershopBooks on Twitter
http://BarbershopBooks.org

Vincent Taylor
Cornbread Series of reading books
http://www.cornbreadseries.com/
Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/CornbreadSeries/

Well Read Black Girl
https://www.facebook.com/wellreadblackgirls/
#WellReadBlackGirl Twitter

Angie Nixon and Natalie
The Adventures of Moxie Girl
https://www.facebook.com/theadventuresofmoxiegirl/
for girls of color and culture that
struggle their own identies and hair.
http://moxiegirl.com

Get Connect Dad sharing stories
@GetConnectDad on Twitter
https://getconnectdad.com/2016/05/17/48-stories-on-fatherhood/
theconnectdad@gmail.com email

Astronaut Star Bright
https://www.facebook.com/astroStarBright/
@astroStarBright

February 25, 2016

Parents Google and Hashtag Your Kids

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Parents Google and Hashtag Your Kids
by William Jackson, M.Edu.
Educational Technology
Edward Waters College

The increase of youth, teens and young adults having
un-monitored access to the Internet is creating
situations where youth, teens and young adults
are being cyberstalked, cyberbullied and cybersexted.
Just as in cities and towns there are good parts and
there are parts you do not want your children going.
The Internet is wide open and is a reflection of our
society. It is global, diverse, cultural, alternative
lifestyle, entertaining, educational, enter and edu
/tainment resource. There is so much eye candy that
teens and young adults are being hypnotized by the
glitz and glamour of having their content either
picture/video going viral.
Going viral has the potential of making the person
instant superstars. Parents must be very cautious
of their children’s access to online content because
it can literally cost them their lives.

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There are laws available like COPPA and others, but
it comes down to parents establishing rules and
realistic behavior expectations when it comes to
Internet access and using the platforms and tools
that are easily available.

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15 Online safety measures to keep kids safe
1.Parents monitor your child’s online activities.
You should be aware of where they are going just
as if they are walking their neighborhoods.
a. Children’s psychological safety is just as
important as their physical safety.
b. Have conversations about their favorite sites,
who their online friends are, what social media
platforms they are using.
c. are your children using video to share information,
are they using Google maps to tell their friends where
they live? These are questions parents need the
answers too.
d. Talk to educators and other parents about
sharing educational, and edutainment resources.
2. “Know safety, No injury. No safety, Know injury.”
Parents should be involved in determining how much
tech is being used by their children in their homes.
3. Help your child build a positive relationship
and respect for their online activities.
This respect decreases bullying, cyberbullying,
and sexting.
4. Parents must model good online behaviors.
If your child sees you acting ignorant and
disrespectful they will do the same.
Your children are also influenced by peer
pressure and modeling realistic expectations
for behavior by you.
5. Set a time limit for being online, more
emphasis on reading and other activities that
challenge thinking, reasoning and higher order
thinking.

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6. Don’t be naive, consider the source when your
child is trying to blow smoke as to why they
need extra time online. Check the taskbar to see
if multiple windows are open.
7. Teach your children to know how advertisers
work. No to click ads that say free games, candy,
toys, etc.
8. Sometimes ask your children to teach you something
new online. Test their intelligence and intellect
with technology.
9. Google your child or children, Hashtag
your child, YouTube your child once a month
Google:  First Name Last Name + City, State
Hashtag: ”                                 ”
in Twitter
10. Even though it should not have to be said,
teach your children not to put personal information
online.
Identity theft is a major problem in this digital age.

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11.Check parental controls in your browser and learn
how to check your browsers history to see where the
kids and teens have gone online.
12 If your children play online games monitor the
language and conversations. You can’t control others
and their actions and language, but you should
be able to control your child to a certain degree
and talk to them about behaviors of others.
13. Each Social Media site has an age restriction.
I have talked to 10 and 11 year old students with
Facebook, SnapChat and Vine accounts. Some are too
young to handle the language and adult situations
they are exposed to.
14. Be friends with your kids until they are 16 at
least. Don’t stalk them, but monitor behaviors and
actions.
15. The online experience should help to build social
skills. “Treat others as you would like to be treated.”

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Teach your children about online pornography, teach
them about the realistic work in establishing
relationships not through the use of porn and sex.
The internet can be like the wild wild west, parents
must use caution, common sense and intuition to
understand what is happening with their children and
their online experiences.

Online Resources for Children and Parents
Childrens Online Privacy – A Resource Guide for Parents
https://www.privacyrights.org/childrens-online-privacy-a-resource-guide-for-parents
Childrens Internet Protection Act
https://www.fcc.gov/consumers/guides/childrens-internet-protection-act
Childrens’ Online Privacy Protection Act
https://www.ftc.gov/enforcement/rules/rulemaking-regulatory-reform-proceedings/childrens-online-privacy-protection-rule

Videos
An Introduction to the Child Protection Act 1999
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Go5PbrGlCwQ
Protecting Children’s Privacy Under COPPA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cODKB9fApXk
Think Time: Teens and Social Networks
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1TWHsiMYSxw
Dos and Don’ts when using social networks
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqezbib5qpQ
Social Media 2014
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pahLo5TTy4

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