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June 1, 2018

Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children

Filed under: #Fathers,Education,Parenting — William Jackson @ 11:30
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Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children
William Jackson, #MyQuestToTeach
Father, Mentor, Community Activist, Educator

Fathers, as the school year comes to a close continue to
teach your children to apply what they learned in school
so they can make learning relevant. Help them to apply the
academic lessons to think for themselves and make personal
choices that are positive. Even if their friends are opposite
and oppose them, one mistake can ruin and change a life for
a life time.

Fathers, teach your children to be accountable and responsible,
teach them to be independent thinkers and understand how
important their dreams are. There are many lessons to learn
so be patient and purposeful, be aware that sometimes your
children think different than you do and react different
depending on the situation and the stress.

Not all children learn to tie their shoes at the same time,
not all children stop sucking their fingers at the same
time. Patience, purpose and prayer do work even in the 21st
century.

Your presence as a parent, father guardian, mentor and
prayer do matter. Never forget that your children look to you
for guidance even if they do not say anything.
Actions speak louder than words, so guard not just your
mouth, but your actions and interactions in the community.

Some personal observations as a parent…….
1.Fathers don’t allow yourself and your children to grow stale
or stagnant, always embrace learning opportunities. Attend
community, civic and even political events to teach your
children civic duty and community activism.
2. Fathers teach your children to stay away from people who
hate on others, gossip, conspire against, plot and plan to
embarrass or even destroy. Those that hate on others often
have low self esteem and unhappy emotionally.
3. Fathers teach your children that sex is not a conquest
or a quick one sided pleasure. There are consequences and
reactions to having multiple sexual partners.
4. Father teach your children that sex is not a tool to get
what you want in life. That the mind and emotions are changed
forever when involved in sexual encounters with multiple
people. Not everyone is emotionally ready for sex at the
same time.
5. Fathers teach your children what comes out of their
mouths defines them and Brands them. The mouth can speak
life or death.
6. Fathers teach your daughters they don’t need a sugar
daddy, pimp daddy or friend with benefits to make it in life.
Teach them early that they are smart, creative, innovative
and brilliant.
7. Fathers teach your sons and daughters that before they get
into someone’s bed, be sure to get into their head. They must
have some common grounds for growth and life.
There is a personal responsibility when having sex and not
building a relationship.
8. Fathers teach your sons not to use women for sex, drugs,
money or create illegitimate children that they have no
plans to support and love. The children created will grow
to be angry, uncertain about who they are and where in life
they are going.
9. Fathers teach your children how to love, how to respect and
the value of morals and values. Teach your children the
empowerment of education not just in the classroom, but to
be life-long learners.
10. Fathers teach your children the dangers of “playing” with
drugs and alcohol. Not everyone can tolerate getting drunk
and getting high.
11. Fathers show up at your children’s school several times a
year, show them better than you can tell them you value
their education, respect teachers, eating lunch with them
and going on field trips.
12. Fathers if “Lives Matter” they should learn that from
birth and through your involvement and actions.
13. Fathers teach your children about the true meaning of
hate, racism, bigotry, prejudice and bias. Do not sugarcoat it.
Raise your child to be a benefit to society not a danger or
future media sacrifice.
14. Fathers teach your children they will not stay children
forever, as they grow to enjoy life and living. To learn
skills that build their character and value for life.
15. Fathers watch the news with your children
and explain events around the world. Get them to talk
about what they think and feel.
16. Fathers even if your not in the home plan to make time
and make time to plan what your doing.
17. Fathers even if you start with 10.00 start a bank account
for your child. Teach them to invest in themselves.
18. Fathers create a mindset of growth and progress.
Show your kids that you have dreams and aspirations
beyond where you are now. No matter your past you’re
reaching for a better life.
19. Fathers the future is not predictable, but have a plan
for the future for your kids. Start a college fund or a business
fund. Put money aside even if it is 5.00 per month because your
children will need to continue their education past high school.
20. Fathers visit a doctor if not regularly, occassionally. Be
proactive in your health because not knowing if you have
high blood pressur, diabetes, or any other life challenges may
create burdens on your family. Medical issues can keep you from
being the dad you want to be and the dad your kids need you
to be.
21. Fathers reflect on the hard lessons you learned and
share them with you children. Teach them that lessons can help
them to grow even if they stuggle.
22. Fathers teach your children that struggles and challenges
are a part of life and that they can survive and grow from
them.
23. Fathers teach your children the value of prayer, why
prayer is helpful. Guide their learning in ministry not
just attending church.
24. Fathers join a support group, mentoring group for yourself.

Blogging at: My Quest To Teach   #MyQuestToTeach
http://MyQuestToTeach.WordPress.com/
Twitter: wmjackson
Instagram: http://Instagram.com/WilliamDJackson

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September 10, 2017

Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children in 2017

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Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children in 2017

by William Jackson, #MyQuestToTeach
Father, Community Activist, Educator

Fathers this school year or 2017/2018 empower
your children with social and personal skills that
will prepare them for a changing and dynamic
world in and out of school.
Teach children to think for themselves and make
personal decisions even if their friends are opposite
and oppose them.
Even if your children are met with bullying and
criticism, your children must be prepared mentally,
emotionally and with social skills that help them
not only “code switch,” but adapt and excel in
diverse environments.
Teach your children to be accountable and respon-
sible, teach them to be independent thinkers
and how important their dreams are. There are
many lessons to learn by your children so be
patient and purposeful, be aware that sometimes
your children think different and react different
than their peers and their friends.
Not all children learn to tie their shoes at the same
time.
I still teach kindergarten and first grade students
at my school how to tie shoes and even occasionally
second graders.
Not all children stop sucking their fingers at the same
time. Patience, purpose and prayer does work even in
the 21st century so even teach your child why prayer
is important not just how to pray.
Every child is different, every smile means something
different, tears do not all mean the same thing and
kids interpret the world differently so fathers must
listen and guide their children to be the best they
can be, not just always the way fathers want them
to be.
We must teach our children patience, and be patient
with them. Teach our children compassion and be
compassionate, we have to show empathy and
sympathy and even kindness. If you don’t  think so,
think about how you treat their mother, because
your sons and even daughters will treat their mothers,
grandmothers, future boy friends/girl friends and
spouses the way you demonstrate and teach.

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Suggestions for fathers………..
1.Fathers don’t allow yourself and your children to
grow stale or stagnant, always embrace learning and
opportunities to attend community, civic and even
political events to teach your children on a broad
scale of duty and community activism.
2. Fathers teach your children to stay away from
people who hate on others, gossip, conspire against,
plot and plan to embarrass or even destroy. Those
that hate on others often have low self esteem and
will turn on those that side with them eventually.
3. Fathers teach your children that sex is not a conquest
or a quick one sided pleasure. There are consequences
and reactions to having multiple sexual partners.
4. Father teach your children that sex is not a tool to
get what you want in life. That the mind and emotions
are changed forever when involved in sexual encounters
with multiple people.
Not everyone is emotionally ready for sex at the same
time.
5. Fathers teach your children what comes out of their
mouth defines them and Brands them. The mouth can
speak life or death.
6. Fathers teach your daughters they don’t need a sugar
daddy, pimp daddy or friend with benefits to make it in
life. Having multiple “baby daddies” is nothing to be
proud of.
7. Fathers teach your sons and daughters that before
they get into someones bed, be sure to get into their
head to see if they are being used. There is a personal
responsibility when having sex.
8. Fathers teach your sons not to use women for sex,
drugs, money or create illegitimate children that they
have no plans to support and love.
9. Fathers teach your children how to love, how to
respect and the value of morals and values. Teach your
children the empowerment of education not just in the
classroom, but to be life-long learners.
10. Fathers teach your children the dangers of “playing”
with drugs and alcohol. Not everyone can tolerate getting
drunk and getting high.
11. Fathers show up at your children’s school at least
4 times a school year, show them better than you can
tell them you value their education by eating lunch with
them and going on field trips.
12. Fathers if all lives matter they should learn that from
birth.
13. Fathers teach your children about the true meaning
of hate, racism, bigotry, prejudice and bias. Do not
sugarcoat it.
14. Fathers teach your children they will not stay children
forever, but as they grow to enjoy life and living. To learn
skills that build their character and value for life.
15. Fathers watch the news with your children at least
twice a week and explain events around the world. Get
them to talk about what they think and feel.
16. Fathers teach your children no one is perfect and to
strive to be the best they can be not something from a
story or game.
17. Fathers reflect on the hard lessons you learned and
share them with you children. Teach them that lessons
can help them to grow even if they struggle.
18. Fathers teach your children that struggles and
challenges are a part of life and that they can survive and
grow from them.
19. Fathers teach your children the value of prayer, why
prayer is helpful. Guide their learning in ministry not
just attending church.
20 Fathers join a support group, mentoring group for
yourself.

William Jackson, M.Ed.
Community Activist, Father / Fatherhood Advocate
Blogging at: My Quest To Teach
http://MyQuestToTeach.WordPress.com/
Twitter: wmjackson
Instagram: http://Instagram.com/Wifathers3lliamDJackson

 

 

 

November 19, 2016

Parents Is Your Child Sexting and Your Paying the Bill

Filed under: Education — William Jackson @ 09:30
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Parents Is Your Child Sexting and Your Paying the Bill
by William Jackson, M.Ed. @wmjackson
#MyQuestToTeach

Parents expand the talk about
bullying into the area of Sexting
to make sure your child understands
that Sexting is a form of digital porn.
One in five tweens/teens/young adults’
maybe risking prison because of
sending and receiving child pornography.
This includes risking being labeled
as a sex offender or sexual predator because of distributing
nude or semi nude pictures of themselves or others under the age of 18.

Cell phone technology has contributed to the ability to send pictures and video
that normally would not be accessible and sharable. Youth and teens have learned
the empowerment and engagement of technology, applying it inappropriately
because of immaturity; the thrill of sexual activity and peer pressure.

Parents need to understand that teens with cell phones are not restricted from
sending, receiving or further distribution of nude or semi-nude pictures on Social Media.
If a youth willingly or unwillingly is photographed partially nude, semi-nude or totally
nude that is under 18 and those pictures are distributed electronically it is against
the law.

Even though the circumstances may seem trivial the results can be devastating to
a young person and their reputations within school, community and even where they
worship religiously are damaged, their reputations can be destroyed.
This is a digital age of E-reputations and E-personalities that are important and need to
be protected and managed.
Surveys have shown that teenagers and young adults surveyed by the National
Campaign to Prevent Teenage and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com found
that 25 percent of teenagers and 36 percent of young adults ages 20 to 26 said they
had sent or posted nude or semi-nude photos of themselves.

This survey may seem hard to believe, the information holds true and seems to be
growing because of the increase in cell phone use by tweens, teens and young adults
is growing. The power of wireless technology has increasingly caused problems for
parents, schools and law enforcement because of the increased ability to send and
receive information on multiple platforms and even in Apps.

Additional surveys have shown parents and guardians that tweens, teens and young
adults should never be underestimated or perceived as naive or technology illiterate.
Teens teach each other new tips and tricks, the latest skills, hacks, hints and codes
that allow for more flexibility and manipulation of technology both legal and illegal.
Parents should be aware that their children and teens may have a sexual inquisitiveness,
subjected to bad judgment, influenced by peer pressure and love of electronic sharing
especially with pictures and video they take. When these elements are combined it
can become dangerous combination of technology and raging hormones.

Parents, especially if they are
paying the cell phone bill should
periodically without notice check
the monthly bills online for activity,
this can show texts sent and received,
photos, video and other important
information that is transmitted digitally;
the use of data is important because
that can be an indication of increased use.

Parents should occasionally physically
check phones for content, if a child refuses to
give their phone when asked this is a red
flag that something is not right and the parent
should investigate further. Technology is a two-edged sword, it can help with networking,
research and empowering youth, teens and young adults with information, the Internet
is a wide open portal to appropriate and inappropriate information parents must
communicate with their children their expectations for behaviors on and off-line.
Parents have a responsibility and are accountable to manage what they allow
their children access to and will be held accountable if necessary by law enforcement.


Resources:
Missing and Exploited Children
http://www.netsmartz.org/Sexting

Growing Wireless – Sexting
http://www.growingwireless.com/be-aware/sexting

October 7, 2016

Stop Bullying with My Quest To Teach

Stop Bullying with My Quest To Teach 
Video via William Jackson
williamderejackson@gmail.com
My Quest To Teach

Brownsville Church of Christ Prevent Bullying
Brownsville Church of Christ
Back to School – Preventing Bullying 

I have been speaking and presenting on the prevention of Bullying,
Cyberbullying, Sexting and the inappropriate use of texting for
several years.

Through the use of incorporating traditional blogging, video blogging,
Social Media platforms, and other platforms and tools I try to share
the reasons and realistic concerns why children, youth, teens and young
adults bully.

Each incident no matter how small creates an atmosphere of fear and
uncertainty in a young persons perception(s) of safety and even belonging.
Bullying is not a rite of passage to manhood or womanhood, it does not
build character or bonding.

Bullying is hurtful, mean, sad and creates long-term psychological
damage.  Emotional trauma and even the inability to trust and love
has resulted in some cases.

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Students from ACD – Arlington Country Day School
Prevent Bullying Workshop for Middle and High School
via William Jackson  #MyQuestToTeach

Below is a video that was created and produced by myself to show
that bullying should not be tolerated, but it should be treated with
compassion and care.

Links to my bullying blogs over the years are provided.
Feel free to use the resources to empower children, teens and young
adults and even to educate parents. Parents are usually the last to
know that their child is the bully or that their child is being bullied.

Education is important and observation. Parents unfortunately do
not know their children as well as they think they do so the
accumulation and engagement in relationships is important to
establish and maintain between child and parent.

Bullying Presentations
https://wordpress.com/page/myquesttoteach.wordpress.com/259

Building Character and Resources
https://wordpress.com/page/myquesttoteach.wordpress.com/689

Bullying Blogs
https://wordpress.com/page/myquesttoteach.wordpress.com/3530

Video via William Jackson
My Quest To Teach
Parent, Educator, Blogger
Community Activist

September 28, 2016

Dads Take Your Child to School Day

Dads Take Your Child to School Day
by William Jackson, M.Edu.
Instructor with Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach
Daddy Blogger – Community Activist – Educator
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The Florida Department of Education initiative:
Dads Take Your Child to School Day! The Department
of Family and Community Engagement is partnering on
this initiative. This event is similar to the Million Father
March that was held on the first day of school nationally.

As part of  this initiative, fathers are asked to show their child
that they value and support their education by bringing them
to school on Wednesday, September 28th and that they
commit to being involved in their learning throughout the year.

This is a great opportunity to increase parental engagement,
especially among fathers, for the entire 2016-17 school year.
Last year, fathers, grandfathers, foster fathers, stepfathers,
uncles, cousins, big brothers, male caregivers, mentors and
family friends all showed their support for students across
the state through their participation. The excitement for
many students is continuing to blossom and the work
continues for academic growth and success. Fathers are
very important in the process of education, helping in laying
a foundation for the importance of maturing academically
and socially. Being a father requires continuous giving,
generosity, kindness, compassion, empathy, love and
dedication to another life besides their own.

Education is a life-long process that is influenced by
parental priorities and influence.

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“Fathers can and do change the world one child
at a time.” William Jackson, M.Edu.

These are suggestions from a father, educator, and
community activist to encourage fathers to
participate and be engaged in the educational
process of their children from early childhood to
higher education.

1. Fathers respect your child’s teacher(s)

One way to support education is to model respect for
teachers and administrators. Fathers speak more by
their actions than words, so visit schools and praise
teachers and administrators.
2. Fathers spend time in the school
Even though it might be tough to visit schools at
least once a month it makes a world of difference
in a child’s behavior and academic success. Spending
time means sacrificing a lunch time, overtime or
buddy time. The rewards are great, just look in
your child’s eyes and see.
3. Fathers listen to teachers not talk at them
Sometimes it is more valuable to listen than to speak.
Fathers must trust teachers to tell them the truth about
their children even if the truth hurts or challenges
making changes to discipline, doing homework,
requiring tutors or not participating in sports or after
school activities. The priority of school is education.
4. Fathers discipline with Love
Many of us have humorous stories of being disciplined
when we were of youthful vigor and energy. We
understood later we were wrong in some of our actions
and choices and that discipline was done with love.
So fathers must continue to have love in their hearts
and minds and discipline fairly and with love.
5. Fathers are Role Models
Fathers are the first role models, even when we don’t
think our kids are watching, they are and other kids do
too. So our actions speak louder than words. We can’t
say “do as I say and not do as I do” because we
send the wrong messages and set our actions and
words up to be hypocritical and without meaning.
6. Fathers are Teachers
When a father teaches it is by his actions not always
by his words. The first teacher should be the child’s
parents. They establish the foundation for future success.
Even if not a great student in school fathers can teach
their children from their mistakes to help their children
to be better academically and socially.

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7. Fathers  should share meals
A great time to share is when eating together. This is a
relaxing time to joke, share, encourage, engage in fun
conversation. Sharing meals should not be serious times,
but memorable ones starting with prayer.
Communication should be two ways that encourage the
kids to ask questions too.
8. Fathers Read to their Children
When my children where toddlers until middle school
their mother and I read to them at various times  during
the day and when it was bed time. This created an
atmosphere where reading was fun. When
they were able to we allowed them to read to us. Even
though we divorced I still read to my children to keep
the consistency and fun of it. Fathers that are not strong
readers should read to their level and build as their
children build. Learning together should not be an
embarrassment it should be a cooperative effort to
show comprehension and literacy are vital.
9. Fathers Show Affection
Fathers cannot afford to be “hard” and unemotional,
this creates unstable emotional behaviors in children
that cause confusion and conflicting emotions for
stability and expression. Fathers have to model love,
proper affection, sensitivity, common sense,
compassion, tenderness. These are what children
need to learn to function in society.
10. Fathers Job is Never Done
At the time of this writing 2016 both my children
are in college, working, driving and in some
capacity they are still dependent on me. Fathering
is a lifelong responsibility even when children are
maturing into adults themselves. Fathers are the
cushions, the barriers that God has placed to make
the world less scary, less threatening and less
depressing when the challenges of life attack
our children.

Children need to know that daddy will be there
not just for money, but for encouragement, advice,
praise, love, prayers and sometimes just a silent
shoulder to listen and arms for reassuring hugs.
Fathers you must decide what kind of father you
want to be, it is a choice and personal decision.
Don’t try to be like any other father but who you
are. Don’t be fake, foolish or fraud, your children
will see right through you.
It is ok to be scared, nervous and apprehensive,
no one has all the answers, you have more life
experiences than your children so use that to
build on as a foundation of support and love.

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Resources:
“The Talk” with your kids:
http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/09/05/345891814/whats-your-take-on-nprthetalk  how to make sure your  child comes home.

 

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