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November 19, 2016

Parents Is Your Child Sexting and Your Paying the Bill

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Parents Is Your Child Sexting and Your Paying the Bill
by William Jackson, M.Ed. @wmjackson
#MyQuestToTeach

Parents expand the talk about
bullying into the area of Sexting
to make sure your child understands
that Sexting is a form of digital porn.
One in five tweens/teens/young adults’
maybe risking prison because of
sending and receiving child pornography.
This includes risking being labeled
as a sex offender or sexual predator because of distributing
nude or semi nude pictures of themselves or others under the age of 18.

Cell phone technology has contributed to the ability to send pictures and video
that normally would not be accessible and sharable. Youth and teens have learned
the empowerment and engagement of technology, applying it inappropriately
because of immaturity; the thrill of sexual activity and peer pressure.

Parents need to understand that teens with cell phones are not restricted from
sending, receiving or further distribution of nude or semi-nude pictures on Social Media.
If a youth willingly or unwillingly is photographed partially nude, semi-nude or totally
nude that is under 18 and those pictures are distributed electronically it is against
the law.

Even though the circumstances may seem trivial the results can be devastating to
a young person and their reputations within school, community and even where they
worship religiously are damaged, their reputations can be destroyed.
This is a digital age of E-reputations and E-personalities that are important and need to
be protected and managed.
Surveys have shown that teenagers and young adults surveyed by the National
Campaign to Prevent Teenage and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com found
that 25 percent of teenagers and 36 percent of young adults ages 20 to 26 said they
had sent or posted nude or semi-nude photos of themselves.

This survey may seem hard to believe, the information holds true and seems to be
growing because of the increase in cell phone use by tweens, teens and young adults
is growing. The power of wireless technology has increasingly caused problems for
parents, schools and law enforcement because of the increased ability to send and
receive information on multiple platforms and even in Apps.

Additional surveys have shown parents and guardians that tweens, teens and young
adults should never be underestimated or perceived as naive or technology illiterate.
Teens teach each other new tips and tricks, the latest skills, hacks, hints and codes
that allow for more flexibility and manipulation of technology both legal and illegal.
Parents should be aware that their children and teens may have a sexual inquisitiveness,
subjected to bad judgment, influenced by peer pressure and love of electronic sharing
especially with pictures and video they take. When these elements are combined it
can become dangerous combination of technology and raging hormones.

Parents, especially if they are
paying the cell phone bill should
periodically without notice check
the monthly bills online for activity,
this can show texts sent and received,
photos, video and other important
information that is transmitted digitally;
the use of data is important because
that can be an indication of increased use.

Parents should occasionally physically
check phones for content, if a child refuses to
give their phone when asked this is a red
flag that something is not right and the parent
should investigate further. Technology is a two-edged sword, it can help with networking,
research and empowering youth, teens and young adults with information, the Internet
is a wide open portal to appropriate and inappropriate information parents must
communicate with their children their expectations for behaviors on and off-line.
Parents have a responsibility and are accountable to manage what they allow
their children access to and will be held accountable if necessary by law enforcement.


Resources:
Missing and Exploited Children
http://www.netsmartz.org/Sexting

Growing Wireless – Sexting
http://www.growingwireless.com/be-aware/sexting

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November 4, 2016

The Humanity of Fatherhood

The Humanity of Fatherhood
William Jackson, M.Edu
Edward Waters College
@wmjackson #MyQuestToTeach

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Chinua Achebe, “We cannot trample upon
the humanity of others without devaluing our
own.” The Igbo, always practical, put it
concretely in their proverb:
Onye ji onye n’ani ji onwe ya:
“He who will hold another down in the mud
must stay in the mud to keep him down.”
The Education of a British-Protected Child: Essays

“Fathers, it is time to lift our children, our families,
our culture, our communities from the mud
of poverty, death and destruction.”
William Jackson – My Quest To Teach

Watching the media and the continued deaths
of young men and young women, fathers have
a choice to be a blessing or a curse to their
children, to embed humanity into their process
of raising their families. To lead them to a life
of safety and growth or condemn them to
potential sentences of poverty, lack of
educational success and a societal voice of
silence.

Fathers are supposed to be the foundation,
the rock that their families can stand on during
the storms of life and the challenges that they
will face. The national deaths by violence of
children of color and culture are a signal that
too many fathers are not doing their jobs,
importantly too many men are not parenting,
fathering, guiding and mentoring. Too many
are talking, their lips are moving, but their feet
and hearts are standing still. There is work to
do in their communities, but too many fathers
are counterproductive and adding to the
troubles their communities are facing.

 

 

 

Fathers are influential in the social and
educational directions of their children, they set
the tones for social interaction, establishing the
direction of their children and others around
them, growing and developing the social skills
and humbleness that boys and girls developing
into men and women will need. Children are
modeling their father’s activities, mentalities,
their lack of compassion and lack of sensitivities
to their children. The father is the model whether
at home or not, looking at the communities of
color and culture too many fathers are not
involved or do not care.

Social skills are not just necessary social requirements;
they are the patterns of behaviors for survival that boys
and girls of color and culture will need to know in order
to grow in a society that is still struggling with boys and
girls of diversity and color. The directions of life take
many twists and turns for youth especially African
American youth, this is NOT another hate the system
or hate the government blog, nor is it a blog on what
the educational system is not accomplishing.

This blog addresses the responsibilities of “Men in
the Village” to re-evaluate and re-prioritize their thinking
and to be of service to their communities.
The great Nigerian author Chinua Achebe through his
writings tries to teach men that positive emotions to
their children are beneficial and “do not
fear being
thought weak as a man” because men show emotions,
they should to establish a connection with their families.

Men have a right that extends to the accountability and
responsibility to be involved in their children’s educational
growth and development. How can hundreds if not
thousands of men attend sporting events in support
of their children, but cannot consistently volunteer, visit,
mentor, support their children’s schools that are preparing
them for life in this nation?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
Achebe shares, “(fathers) do not show any human emotions
and sentiments so as not to be seen as weak,” are creating
un-caring societies where children are forgetting the value
of love, compassion, sympathy and honor. Men do not have
to cry to show emotions, but should hug and kiss their children,
hold their hands and provide emotional support and
mental comfort just as African men have done for centuries.
How many men can blame the State Attorney’s Office
and law enforcement if they won’t “man up” handling
their “business” and parental responsibilities in raising
their children? Prisons are not Day Cares, Learning
Centers, Enrichment Organizations; how many men can
blame the school district if they have not started the
process of educating their children in the basics of
reading, math and social behaviors at home that allow
for education in a formal setting to start. Learning
starts at home and fathers need to be responsible
for this happening.

The streets, back alleys, street corners and clubs of
our communities will teach skills that will lead to
death or prison as seen in children today, what real
father can be proud of that?

Fathers need to be involved in a dialogue that teaches
with love and wisdom, young fathers
need help. Children should be seen holding their
fathers hands, sitting on their laps and involved in
activities that build critical thinking skills, encourage
problem solving abilities and promote higher order
thinking that creates language development, increased
vocabulary and appreciation for being intelligent.

“People say that if you find water rising up to your ankle,
that’s the time to do something about it, not when it’s
around your neck.” Chinua Achebe
African American communities are finding crime and
death inching around their necks, they should do
something positive about it to make a change in their
communities. When “not snitching” is more important
than a child’s life that was taken by a bullet is the priority
the humanity has been taken away. Human life is not
valued and is less than that of an animal.
Because of continuous generational tragedies young
people of color are thereby increasing their likelihood
of entering correctional facilities, and if daddy is not
there who do kids model except who they see on the
street or movies?

To keep children of color and culture from entering
into the “pipeline” prevention and pro-action is needed.
Fathers are an important part of this effort, fathers need
to be trained and encouraged. Ronnie Cage, community
activist and national trainer for fathers and fathering skills
has encouraged fathers need training to be fathers for
years.
Parenting is a powerful force; parents have a spiritual
connection to their children and a responsibility to raise
them. Research from the University of Maryland (2000)
indicates that, “children who have fathers or father figures
in their lives learn better, have higher self-esteem and
show fewer signs of depression and aggression.”
“…children who identified a father or father figure
scored higher on basic learning skill tests and had
a stronger sense of competence and social acceptance
compared to children without fathers”
(University of Maryland Medical News, 2000).

Fact “Black males represent six percent of the U.S.
population, yet 35 percent
of the prison population and less than two percent
of teachers” Morehouse College Educational
Conference 2009.
All these have an effect on the mental and emotional
state of children of color and culture.
In the beginning man was created first to care for the
world, so men must take the lead and be a part of
their children’s lives before cemeteries and prisons
have more children
in them than schools and playgrounds.

September 12, 2016

Fatherhood from the First Day of School

Fatherhood from the First Day of School To The Last
William Jackson, M.Ed.
Educator of 27 years, Teacher of the Year,
Instructor with Edward Waters College
Parent of 2 college students

William and Sean

William and Sean


Each school year is an opportunity to begin anew not just for
kid, but for parents as well. To start off on a great foundation of
learning and discovery. It is also another opportunity to encourage
fathers, grandfathers, uncles, stepfathers and surrogate fathers to
mentor and volunteer in schools.
Fathers must understand they do have an impact in schools and
the need to be involved and engaged.
To be involved in making their children’s lives a better opportunity
to grow and to be better than their parents.
Fathers have to understand they leave a legacy with their children.

Nationally through the Million Father March the first day of school
is important to set the foundation for a academic year of 180 days
for learning. To improve reading and develop comprehension. To
celebrate the creatives, the innovators, the intellectuals and the
students that are not athletes nor are they entertainers. They are
the “smart” kids that sometimes to do not get recognized,
they do not get noticed and sometimes even picked on and bullied.

A father presence can stop bullying, they can stop harassment,
they can build self-esteem and self-confidence. In this mission
fathers are key to motivating, encouraging, and making learning
exciting and even protecting and guiding their and other kids.

No matter the educational level of the father, data shows how
important fathers are. Dads, stepdads and male figures
do account for success in the classroom and school environment.
Not to mention active fathers improve communities.

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School districts if they are not should accept
fathers and use them as a motivational tool
and role models to help students see other
options in careers and success.
In many school districts fathers are welcomed
and encouraged to attend PTA meetings,
join School Advisory Councils and even
encouraged to attend school board meetings
contributing in school improvement discussions.
Fathers have a different perspective and need
to be used for their wisdom and knowledge.

Men don’t let a potential background issues
keep you from registering to volunteer for
your child’s educational success. Children need
the support and value that men show for education.

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My daughter and I when she was in elementary
school, I visited her school once a month with
my son and daughter.
Took off work and made that sacrifice. Still
picked up my son and daughter every other weekend.
It was not easy and many miles of travel.

Support should not be just on the first day,
it should be every day, every week and every
month. What would happen if parents decided
they do not want to be parents for a week or
a month. That is the case in some situations
in schools.

Many schools started after the Labor Day
weekend. Fathers should know their children’s
teachers, the Principal, Vice Principal, who
the Guidance Counselor is.
Father should know or have a copy of the lunch
schedule and even locked in their phones
the schools number.
Fathers should know what the school start time
and end time is as well so they can pickup their
kids or be able to attend parent / teacher
conferences.

Tag yourself through the year in the hashtag
#BackToSchool, #MillionFatherMarch on Twitter,
Facebook and other Social Media platforms to
show your support and involvement in the
schools this year in your community and in your city.

Keep  up to date on school events and activities,
stay connected and engaged.

Everyone wins and everyone benefits when
fathers and concerned men are part of the
educational process for children.

All fathers have a responsibility to be engaged and active in their
communities. You never know who you influence and how you can
help children grow. #MyQuestToTeach

Resources:

The Alphabet of Fatherhood
http://thyblackman.com/2016/09/03/the-alphabet-of-fatherhood-can-be-awesome/

The role of being a father
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTdmfBeWlKU

Change the Discussion on Black Fathers
http://www.quirkybrownlove.com/2015/05/change-discussion-on-black-fathers.html

GetConnectDAD @GetConnectDad

Dad 2.0 Summit @dad2summit

Daddydaddydaddy @daddydaddydadus

Melanin Bloggers @MelaninBloggers

The Father Effect @thefathereffect

Dad Summit
https://twitter.com/dad2summit

New Fathers Chronicles on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZoaoWgTo61BNTquePdHGu

 

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