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August 10, 2015

Ways to Be An Involved and Engaged Father This School Year

Ways to Be An Involved and Engaged Father This School Year

A new school year is quickly approaching; the excitement for
some students is building and the dread of another year of rigor
and regularity for others.

Families are finishing up vacations, promised adventures,
and fun family activities. Fathers are excited about the school
year and with changing parental responsibilities an increasing
number of fathers are taking responsibilities for the needs of
their children.
News reports in some cases have society thinking that fathers
cannot match the intrinsic and instinctual abilities of mothers,
fathers are doing awesome jobs in raising their children either
as single parents, married, with partners, or even the reality
of alternative lifestyles. Fathers are very important in helping
to raise children and laying a foundation for the importance
of education.

As a parent and educator here are some ways that fathers can
be engaged in the new school year, many have already been
doing these and more. The first step is wanting to be a father
and accepting the responsibility to be a responsible, active,
engaged, loving and dedicated father.
Fathers are learning that they are enjoying the role and
accountability of being a father. It is not just a job, but a life
of joy, happiness, bonding and recognitions that they are part
of something bigger than they are.

Being a father leaves no room for selfishness, it requires
continuous giving, generosity, kindness, compassion, empathy,
love and dedication to another life besides their own. Fathers
are doing this every day without recognition praise,
acknowledgement and thanks, but they
continue to perform because they love their children.

“Fathers can and do change the world one child at a time.”
William Jackson, M.Edu.

William Jackson and Shae Jackson, graduate of
Palatka High School

Suggestions from a father, educator, mentor and community activist.
1. Fathers respect your child’s teacher(s)
One way to support education is to model respect for teachers and
administrators. Fathers speak more by their actions than words, so
visit schools and praise teachers and administrators.

2. Fathers spend time in the school
Even though it might be tough to visit schools at least once a month it
makes a world of difference in a child’s behavior and academic success.
Spending time means sacrificing a lunch time, overtime or buddy time.
The rewards are great, just look in your child’s eyes and see.

3. Fathers listen to teachers not talk at them
Sometimes it is more valuable to listen than to speak. Fathers must
trust teachers to tell them the truth about their children even if the
truth hurts or challenges making changes to discipline, doing homework,
requiring tutors or not participating in sports or after school activities.
The priority of school is education.

4. Fathers discipline with Love
Many of us have humorous stories of being disciplined when we were
of youthful vigor and energy. We understood later we were wrong in
some of our actions and choices and that discipline was done with love.
So fathers must continue to have love in their hearts and minds and
discipline fairly and with love.

5. Fathers are Role Models
Fathers are the first role models, even when we don’t think our kids are
watching, they are and other kids do too. So our actions speak louder
than words. We can’t say “do as I say and not do as I do” because we
send the wrong messages and set our actions and words up to be
hypocritical and without meaning.

6. Fathers are Teachers
When a father teaches it is by his actions not always by his words.
The first teacher should be the child’s parents. They establish the
foundation for future success. Even is not a great student in school
fathers can teach their children from their mistakes to help their
children to be better academically and behaviors.

7. Fathers should share meals
A great time to share is when eating together. This is a relaxing time
to joke, share, encourage, engage in fun conversation. Sharing meals
should not be serious times, but memorable ones starting with prayer.

8. Fathers Read to their Children
When my children where toddlers until middle school their mother
and I read to them at various times during the day and when it was
bed time. This created an atmosphere where reading was fun. When
they were able to we allowed them to read to us. Even though we
divorced I still read to my children to keep the consistency and fun
of it. Fathers that are not strong readers should read to their level
and build as their children build. Learning together should not be
an embarrassment it should be a cooperative effort to show
comprehension and literacy are vital.

9. Fathers Show Affection
Fathers cannot afford to be “hard” and unemotional, this creates
unstable emotional behaviors in children that cause confusion and
conflicting emotions for stability and expression. Fathers have to
model love, proper affection, sensitivity, common sense, compassion,
tenderness. These are what children need to learn to function in

10. Fathers Job is Never Done
At the time of this writing 2015 both my children are in college,
working, driving and in some capacity they are still dependent on
me. Fathering is a lifelong responsibility even when children are
maturing into adults themselves. Fathers are the cushions, the barriers
that God has placed to make the world less scary, less threatening and
less depressing when the challenges of life attack our children.

Children need to know that daddy will be there not just for money,
but for encouragement, advice, praise, love, prayers and sometimes
just a silent shoulder to listen and arms for reassuring hugs.
Fathers you must decide what kind of father you want to be, it is
a choice and personal decision.

Sean – Shae – William
Attending World of Nations in Jacksonville, Florida

Sean attending Florida State University
Shae attending University of Central Florida
William teaching with Duval County Public Schools
and Instructor with Edward Waters College teaching
Educational Technology / STEAM / Social Media

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