My Quest To Teach

September 10, 2017

Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children in 2017

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Fathers Continue To Teach Your Children in 2017

by William Jackson, #MyQuestToTeach
Father, Community Activist, Educator

Fathers this school year or 2017/2018 empower
your children with social and personal skills that
will prepare them for a changing and dynamic
world in and out of school.
Teach children to think for themselves and make
personal decisions even if their friends are opposite
and oppose them.
Even if your children are met with bullying and
criticism, your children must be prepared mentally,
emotionally and with social skills that help them
not only “code switch,” but adapt and excel in
diverse environments.
Teach your children to be accountable and respon-
sible, teach them to be independent thinkers
and how important their dreams are. There are
many lessons to learn by your children so be
patient and purposeful, be aware that sometimes
your children think different and react different
than their peers and their friends.
Not all children learn to tie their shoes at the same
time.
I still teach kindergarten and first grade students
at my school how to tie shoes and even occasionally
second graders.
Not all children stop sucking their fingers at the same
time. Patience, purpose and prayer does work even in
the 21st century so even teach your child why prayer
is important not just how to pray.
Every child is different, every smile means something
different, tears do not all mean the same thing and
kids interpret the world differently so fathers must
listen and guide their children to be the best they
can be, not just always the way fathers want them
to be.
We must teach our children patience, and be patient
with them. Teach our children compassion and be
compassionate, we have to show empathy and
sympathy and even kindness. If you don’t  think so,
think about how you treat their mother, because
your sons and even daughters will treat their mothers,
grandmothers, future boy friends/girl friends and
spouses the way you demonstrate and teach.

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Suggestions for fathers………..
1.Fathers don’t allow yourself and your children to
grow stale or stagnant, always embrace learning and
opportunities to attend community, civic and even
political events to teach your children on a broad
scale of duty and community activism.
2. Fathers teach your children to stay away from
people who hate on others, gossip, conspire against,
plot and plan to embarrass or even destroy. Those
that hate on others often have low self esteem and
will turn on those that side with them eventually.
3. Fathers teach your children that sex is not a conquest
or a quick one sided pleasure. There are consequences
and reactions to having multiple sexual partners.
4. Father teach your children that sex is not a tool to
get what you want in life. That the mind and emotions
are changed forever when involved in sexual encounters
with multiple people.
Not everyone is emotionally ready for sex at the same
time.
5. Fathers teach your children what comes out of their
mouth defines them and Brands them. The mouth can
speak life or death.
6. Fathers teach your daughters they don’t need a sugar
daddy, pimp daddy or friend with benefits to make it in
life. Having multiple “baby daddies” is nothing to be
proud of.
7. Fathers teach your sons and daughters that before
they get into someones bed, be sure to get into their
head to see if they are being used. There is a personal
responsibility when having sex.
8. Fathers teach your sons not to use women for sex,
drugs, money or create illegitimate children that they
have no plans to support and love.
9. Fathers teach your children how to love, how to
respect and the value of morals and values. Teach your
children the empowerment of education not just in the
classroom, but to be life-long learners.
10. Fathers teach your children the dangers of “playing”
with drugs and alcohol. Not everyone can tolerate getting
drunk and getting high.
11. Fathers show up at your children’s school at least
4 times a school year, show them better than you can
tell them you value their education by eating lunch with
them and going on field trips.
12. Fathers if all lives matter they should learn that from
birth.
13. Fathers teach your children about the true meaning
of hate, racism, bigotry, prejudice and bias. Do not
sugarcoat it.
14. Fathers teach your children they will not stay children
forever, but as they grow to enjoy life and living. To learn
skills that build their character and value for life.
15. Fathers watch the news with your children at least
twice a week and explain events around the world. Get
them to talk about what they think and feel.
16. Fathers teach your children no one is perfect and to
strive to be the best they can be not something from a
story or game.
17. Fathers reflect on the hard lessons you learned and
share them with you children. Teach them that lessons
can help them to grow even if they struggle.
18. Fathers teach your children that struggles and
challenges are a part of life and that they can survive and
grow from them.
19. Fathers teach your children the value of prayer, why
prayer is helpful. Guide their learning in ministry not
just attending church.
20 Fathers join a support group, mentoring group for
yourself.

William Jackson, M.Ed.
Community Activist, Father / Fatherhood Advocate
Blogging at: My Quest To Teach
http://MyQuestToTeach.WordPress.com/
Twitter: wmjackson
Instagram: http://Instagram.com/Wifathers3lliamDJackson

 

 

 

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April 2, 2017

Your Selfies, DP and Taco Picts Can Hurt You

Your Selfies, DP and Taco Picts Can Hurt You
by William Jackson, My Quest To Teach @wmjackson

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The more I speak at conferences, churches and with
youth groups the more I see that information needs
to be shared with parents and their children.
Too many parents are clueless that their children are
involved in Sexting, Cyberbullying, and even digital
Pimping. Yes I said digital Pimping. The use of  Social
Media to post personal pictures, tantalizing videos,
stimulating sexual photos and senseless party picts
may be fun and exciting, but they can hurt a teen and
young adults e-reputation, e-personality and potentially
their credit score.

You can forget being involved in politics, ministry and in
some cases community service. If you “equipment” is posted
for everyone to see that is almost and death sentence for
community dreams. Employers, educational institutions
and even the military have the capability to check Social
Media platforms to look for and find potentially harmful
information that can stop college entrance, put a stop on
receiving scholarships and internships, even prevent starting
a promising career in a dream job making millions.

Parents should learn the terminology their children are
using online to stop potential problems before they happen,
giving their children a Smartphone is not very bright without
talking about expectations for behaviors and actions.
It is almost like giving the keys of their car to a unlicensed
driver with no experience and no insurance. The Internet
contains the worst and the best of human information,
but youth, teens and young adults will ultimately be attracted
to the parts that are unhealthy and potentially dangerous.

The lure of excitement is more powerful than common sense.
Sexting is a dangerous activity that children are participating in,
they lack the maturity to understand that as a boy sending a
(DP) “dick pic” or a girl sending a (Taco) or vagina pict has
consequences that may involve law enforcement and being
accused in child porn.

Their reputations can be destroyed and that DP or Taco will
never go away because information is backed up, archived and
stored on servers someplace. Traditional laws did not have to
address the Sexting and child porn of the last 10 to 15 years,
because of the Internet Congress has passed legislation
to cover these issues and jails contain men and women
caught in child porn and prostitution rings.
Parents need to understand they have a moral and ethical
responsibility to talk to their children to set expectations, to
reinforce values and morals about their conduct and actions
online. The online world has dangers and tragedies seen when
kids are kidnapped, sexually assaulted or sold as sex slaves
when enticed to meet strangers away from home.

Sexting; is the sending and receiving of sexually explicit
photos and/or text using cell phones with digital cameras.
USA Today has reported in past issues that the percentage
of men admitted to sending a DP is increasing:  those surveyed
because they were asked for one, others they wanted to turn
the other person on. Other reasons flirting and to get the other
person to send one back. Teen girls have reported it is important
to “checking out the junk” to see how real it is because the
imagination can be deceptive and wrong and all boys lie
about the size they have. “It is the imagination part of sexting
that mainly attracts women to it,” USA Today 2012 and the
thrill for guys.

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Studies conducted by the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University,
published in the journal Sexual Health reported No Privacy exists
in cyberspace and that those that Sext have no idea who is looking
at them in the world and have their personal information.
During my presentations over the years with community groups,
youth, teens and young adult groups and even at the international
Preventing Crime In The Black Community I speak realistically to
youth, teens, and young adults about the potential dangers and
future effects of Sexting. It is not romantic, it is not sexy, it is
not what they think when the image is spread to a whole school
or the football team, or basketball team or even in their church.

Too many young people still are under the idea that their pictures
will be deleted when they break up with that boy or girl they are
dating, but the hospitals and even cemeteries show that is not
the case when youth, teens and young adults try to or successfully
commit suicide because their sexting pictures or video are
spread to others and they are harassed and embarrassed at
school, in church and in their communities.

Parents need to have these conversations and Google their
children to see what is out there in photos, videos and sharing
sites, be friends with them online and if necessary contact your
cell phone provider and see who they are texting and sending
and receiving photos and videos with. Be proactive not reactive…..

It is important to be proactive before an incident happens and
law enforcement comes knocking on your door and takes
everyone’s devices for an investigation that will be embarrassing
for you at work, in church and in your community. Youth, teens
and young adults convicted of child porn must register as a
sex offender and this will destroy their freedoms social and
professional. Changes that will affect the whole family for
years to come.

Resources:
Dick Picts
http://www.dreve.co.za/2017/02/21/sexting-selfies-and-dick-pics
The Art of Seductive Texting
http://get-a-wingman.com/sexting-examples-the-ultimate-guide-to-master-the-art-of-seductive-texting/
Parents Learn the New Emoji Terms
https://www.bustle.com/articles/118609-10-new-emoji-that-will-up-your-sexting-game

 

November 7, 2016

The Difference with Fathers and Sperm Donors

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The Difference with Fathers and Sperm Donors
by William Jackson
Father – not sperm donor
Educator – professional
Blogger – national and international

Fathers unless you have your house in order
do not complain or ridicule your brother’s house.
The Igbo, always practical, put it concretely in
their proverb: Onye ji onye n’ani ji onwe ya: “
He who will hold another down in the mud
must stay in the mud to keep him down.”
The Education of a British-Protected Child: Essays

“Fathers, it is time to lift our children, our families,
our culture, our communities from the mud of poverty,
ignorance, death and destruction.”
William Jackson – My Quest To Teach

Fathers have a choice to be a blessing or a curse
to their children, to lead them to a life of safety and
growth or condemn them to potential death
sentences of poverty, ignorance and no societal,
economic and political voice. They (fathers) are
supposed to be the foundation, the rock that their
families can stand on during the storms of life and
the challenges that they will face. The national
deaths by violence of children, teens and young
adults by their peers are a signal that parents
are not doing their jobs and too many fathers
are not parenting, fathering, guiding and mentoring.

 


There is work to do in the community, too many
fathers are counter-productive and adding to the
troubles their communities are facing.
Fathers are influential in the social and educational
directions of their children, they set the tones for
social interaction, establishing the direction of their
children and others around them.

Fathers must teach developing social skills and
humbleness that boys and girls developing into
men and women will need. Children are modeling
their father’s insecurities, negativeness in mentality
and social actions. The father is the model whether
at home or not, looking at the communities of
color and culture too many fathers are not
involved or do not care.

Social skills are not just necessary social
requirements; they are the patterns of behaviors
for survival that boys and girls of color and culture
will need to know in order to grow in a society
that is still struggling with boys and girls of
diversity and color. The directions of life take
many twists and turns for youth especially
youth of color.

This is NOT another hate the system or hate
the government blog, nor is it a blog on what
the educational system is not accomplishing.
This blog addresses the responsibilities of
men in the village to re-evaluate and
re-prioritize their thinking and to be of service
to their communities.

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The Nigerian author Chinua Achebe through
his writings tries to teach men that positive
emotions to their children are beneficial and
“do not
 fear being thought weak as a man
because men show emotions, they should to
establish a connection with their families.
Men have a right that extends to the
accountability and responsibility to be involved
in their children’s educational growth and social
development. How can men attend sporting
events in support of their children, but cannot
consistently volunteer, visit, mentor, support
their children’s schools that are preparing
them for life in this nation?

Achebe shares, (fathers) “do not show any
human emotions and sentiments so as not to
be seen as weak,” are creating un-caring
societies where children are forgetting the
value of love, compassion, sympathy and
honor. Men do not have to cry to show
emotions, but should hug and kiss their children,
just as African men have done for centuries.

How many men can blame the State Attorney’s
Office and law enforcement if they won’t “man up
handling their “business” and parental responsibilities
in raising their children? Prisons are not Day
Cares, Learning Centers, Enrichment Organizations;
how many men visit their  children that are
incarcerated, how many men are proactive to teach
their children that prison is the wrong direction to go.

Fathers instead of speaking against schools need
to volunteer in them, work with teachers and
administrators to make sure all students are
successful. Learning starts at home and fathers
need to be responsible for this happening and
continuing. What father would want their child
to learn from the streets and face incarceration
or even death from the hands of their brothers?

Fathers need to be involved in a dialogue that
teaches with love and wisdom, young fathers
need help in understanding they are important in
their child’s life-long development.  An appropriate
quote from Nigeria that the late Achebe shares,
People who do not seek their fellow human beings’
help when in danger or difficulty are therefore
animalistic.”

Too many children are in need of mentors, guidance
and direction that can come from men that see children
as a future investment. Fathers cannot just be sperm
donors. Spreading their seed without being held
accountable and responsible.

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Children should be seen holding their fathers hands
and involved in activities that build critical thinking
skills, encourage problem solving abilities and
promote higher order thinking that creates language
development, increased vocabulary and appreciation
for being intelligent. “People say that if you find water
rising up to your ankle, that’s the time to do something
about it, not when it’s around your neck
.” Chinua Achebe

African American communities are finding crime and
death inching around their necks, they don’t want
police involved so should do something positive about
it to make a change in their communities.

The term “Sperm Donor” is nothing to be proud of,
it is a title of irresponsibility, immaturity, and weakness.
Because of continuous generational tragedies of
fathers running away from their responsibilities young
people of color are thereby increasing their likelihood
of entering correctional facilities, being placed in
special education class and if daddy is not there who
do kids model except who they see on the streets
and television.
To keep children of color and culture from entering
into the “pipeline” involvement is needed not reaction.
Fathers are an important part of this effort and once
again fathers need to be excited about being a father.
In the beginning man was created first so men must
step up and be a part of their children’s lives before
cemeteries and jail have more children, youth
and young adults in them than schools.

 

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