A Spiritual Guide For Fathers Raising Children Part 1
by: William Jackson
Father, Mentor, Educator
Northbound Church of Christ
Men in the position of a father or father figure
need a guide or “How To” book to help them
navigate through life’s unexpected challenges
when raising or mentoring children.
Fatherhood requires wisdom, patience, a sense
of humor, and a strong spirituality focused and
rooted in God’s word.
People are always willing to provide advice, but
what kind of spiritual guidance is there for
In a world of high tech, high speed, instant
gratification and instant meals, men cannot provide
instant maturity or life experiences to their children.
What kind of guide understands the inherent
responsibilities to fatherhood and importantly
how to be a God fearing and praying man? When
I say man this is not a reference to any color or
culture, it is in reference to ALL men.
There is one book that has stood the test of
time itself, written by The Father who knows of all
situations and circumstances, who looks past all
our faults and shortcomings and provides
wisdom and love.
Understanding human beings, men have faults,
challenges and commit sin. So to counter sin
men have Grace and Mercy on their side, and
are accountable for their behaviors.
Fatherhood is a responsibility that should never
be taken for granted, nor taken lightly,
Proverbs 4:1 states, “Here ye children, the
instruction of a father, and attend to know
understanding”. Proverbs 4:2 states, “I give you
good doctrine for sake ye not my law.”
The law of the father holds much weight in the
stability and functionality of a family which
influences a community and ultimately affects
a city. God’s law is law, and God’s words are
truth and wisdom. Fathers desire their children
to live long and fruitful lives just as our heavenly
father means for us that requires good
teaching and modeling.
Proverbs 4:10 states, “Hear, O my son and
receive my sayings: and the years of thy life
shall be many”. What true father would
not want their children to have a long and
happy life, there needs to be consistent
commitment from the father to the son.
The lack of this commitment is seen today
as our young sons are dying needlessly.
Understanding their place in the order
and scheme of a family strengthens the
family unit and binds the structure of
individuals into a unit that is strong, and
thus strengthens neighborhoods and
When there is no father in the home the
mother has the duality of both parental
responsibilities. She must be the
disciplinarian, advisor, protector,
breadwinner and all the duties and
responsibilities thereof. If the father
does not help, he gives up his rights
to be called father because he is not
involved in providing any good works.
Proverbs 10:1 “The Proverbs of Solomon, a
wise son maketh a glad father, but a foolish
son is the heaviness of his mother.”
Children should conduct their behavior
respectfully and wisely, their actions will be
determined by the modeling of the father
that is present in their lives, if there is no
father figure many women are beset with
the challenges of raising Boys To Men.
This is not an impossible task, but the unity
and cooperation are gone. It is harder to
raise children alone, this has can be
done, but at what cost to individual humanity.
If we view the big picture of school dropout
rates and incarcerations in this nation how
many do not have fathers nor father figures?
In Matthew 7:9-12, how we treat and teach
our sons or those that we model and mentor
is how they may develop. There are too
many men leading our young men the
wrong way. They are providing our children
with alcohol and tobacco (leading to physical
dependencies), illicit drugs (creating psychological
disintegration), and sex (creating a
generation infected with HPV, HIV, HERPES,
and unplanned/unwanted pregnancies). Even
the misunderstanding of their
sexuality. This type of generational homicide
is leading more of our young men and
young women to an existence of poverty
Quoting the past Honorable City Councilwoman
from Jacksonville, Florida Glorious Johnson (R),
“the church and the community must work
together to address our crisis of death and
destruction”. Many have prayed for change,
what contributions besides prayer have they
In Matthew 6:5 it states, ”and when thou prayest,
thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they
love to pray standing in the synagogues and in
the corners of the streets, that they may be
seen of men. Verily, I say unto you, they
have their reward”.
What reward will we all receive in the years to
come if we remain divided and hypocrites in the
Word of God and not get involved in our
churches, in our communities and in our homes.
Fathers have a written guide, we have a word of
truth and power, all we need to do is follow it.
Luke 2:49, “we all must be about our fathers
business,” united in a common cause to save
our children and not allow another possible
generation to be lost.
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