Parents: Who Is Trying to
Sex and Bully Your Children
The recent sex stings in Clay
County Florida and Colorado Springs,
Colorado are showing that sex is
a potent influence; online Social
Media environments are dangerous
Cases of children committing suicide from Bullying and Cyberbullying,
intoxicated girls of minor age being raped and videotaped, Sexting
and CyberStalking shows how dangerous and violent online behaviors
can be and posted pictures and videos are showing violent acts.
Every parent needs to know what their children; teens and young
adults are doing online, who they are Friending, Chatting with and
sharing online content.
This could literally mean the difference between life and death for
boys and girls. As a youth consultant and educator on Social Media,
teens and young adults on Social Media platforms are becoming more
dangerous and exposed to unforeseen dangers.
I often hear students in fourth and fifth grades talking about their
online activities. If parents were to hear these discussions they would
be terrified and potentially turn-off their Internet access or monitor
their children more. Youth and teens are involved in Social Media
discussions that are very graphic and sexual in nature. The reality is
too many parents are either in denial, ignorant, trying to be their
children’s friend or just don’t care about what goes on in online
environments. The reality of the dangers of Social Media
platforms and the far reaching affects can be seen in Operation Wrong
Destination where men as far away as Pennsylvania, Alabama and as
close as neighborhoods in Northeast Florida were arrested trying to
have sexual relations with minor girls.
Even though the young girls were not real (undercover detectives) the
threat was real. In this situation 13 men were arrested ranging in
multiple ages and careers fields. The Internet is a dangerous place
for youth; girls and boys, it is unfiltered, unmonitored and unsupervised.
The story of online predators is typical, using friendship, coercions,
suggestions, attention, and affection. These are the tools that predators
use to befriend and eventually try to seduce young girls. As the predator
befriends a child they convince the child to send partially to totally nude
photos and videos. This is not a quick deal, but a gradual process to gain
the trust of the child and eventually a relationship develops.
Parents need to know who is potentially Sexting, Stalking, Catfishing,
Chatting, and Friending their child or children online before the events
turn tragic. Even family members can contribute to Social Media
challenges by setting up the child an account despite the parent saying
NO. Child sex stings show that men involved are calculating, know what
they want and have a “specific profile” the look for online. Parents need
to know their children’s online profile and personal information that
is posted. My suggestion is to Tag their children’s photos, Google their
names, nicknames, photos and other personal information. Fathers spend
more time with your daughters; attend events like the Daddy Daughter
Dance and have a more trusting relationship that is built on communication
During a recent presentation to high school students participating in
Mayor Alvin Brown’s Learn2Earn Experience I suggested students do a
search on themselves online, a few criticized my idea until they actually
did it and found some amazing and even scary information that was
available in photos, videos and what others had posted about them. Too
many parents are in denial about their children stating their children would
never do this or that or don’t even use the Internet only for research for
The death of Rebecca Sedwick is tragic enough, but when her attackers
and stalkers seemingly don’t care that their actions caused Rebecca to
commit suicide, even one of the girls stating, “IDGAF” and 30 Likes
were posted to this comment online. What morals and values are these
youth being taught about the value of human life? Social Media is opening
a Pandora’s Box of actions and involvement that will have lasting
affects for years to come. Parents and youth, teens and young adults must
understand that online content when posted never goes away. It will affect
scholarships, internships, employments, careers and lifestyles in the future.
Even Sheriff Judd shares his opinions about the parents and Social Media.
Dangers are not just through laptops, all digital connective devices:
Smartphones, Tablets and even gaming systems that allow interactive features.
Using Blogging, Microblogging through Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Vine,
Youtube, Vimeo and other platforms parents must have a dialogue with
their children. The dangers online are not conducive to parents being
“friends” with their children. Parents need to be parents!!!!!
Sheriff Judd in several interviews emphasizes that parents check their
children’s Social Media accounts, phone and other devices, for parents to
be responsible and accountable for their children’s actions and not to put
anything past their children. As an educator teaching Engineering and
Technology I agree, hearing the discussions of children and talking to
them it will scare parents and these are no Halloween stories they are
true and realistic.
Video of Parents and Online Bullying
Video of Legal Implications for Bullying
Polk Sheriff Grady Judd
14 Year Old Commits Suicide After Bullying/Cyberbullying
Girl Offers to Perform Sex Act in School
Child Sex Cases