Parents What Are Your Expectations for Your Child
The school year draws close, parents are concerned about
the outward appearance of their children; rightly so,
children represent their respective families and
generational lineage(family history).
No parent wants their children to look scruffy especially
the first week of school. The concerns of parents in
their dressing of their child or children is a representation
of the physical appearance that creates the initial impressions
that are temporary and quickly fleeting during the school year.
“What kind of child are you raising?” is thought provoking and
a serious discussion that inquires are parents preparing their
children mentally and emotionally for school?
Have parents encouraged excellence using positive words and
positive expectations? Are parents purchasing educational
materials; dictionaries, reference guides, educational DVD’s
library cards and museum memberships?
Are parents talking too, not yelling at their children
about their high expectations for proper behaviors and
scholarly participation(being a good student)?
I have heard in the past too many parents verbally threaten,
demean, dress down, embarrass and curse out their children
as the school year approaches and during the school year.
Their (parents) excuse or reason children need to know
that they mean business.
Comments such as these shape and mold a child’s mind.
It potentially creates a personality that the perception
is they deserve to be beat, they deserve to be yelled at
and cursed at. These actions only reinforce in a child’s
mind that violence should be accepted and maybe even
welcomed to be a good student.
As a parent, an educator, and a mentor I urge parents to
think about and seriously consider two statements by two
well known men. Both are parents and known globally for
their wisdom in their respective professions.
Einstein stated, ”Way of thinking should be taught to
all children, to be tenacious in the way they think, to
solve problems even though they may take years.”
This is related to the elements of STEAM
Science Technology Engineering Arts Mathematics
This progressive and multi-integrated way to teach
empowers students for 21st century careers. Opening
doors to careers of “Content Creators”
(Bill Gates), the value of being human capital in a global
economy based on a foundation of knowledge. Malcolm X stated
simply that, “Education is the passport to the future.
Tomorrow belongs to those who prepare for it today.”
Malcolm X promoted learning and understanding. He is known
to read ferociously and regularly sharing his knowledge
when applying it to Blacks and people of color. Even Whites
in some cases when directed at education shared Malcolm X
views on the importance of education on a global foundation.
It is a parents responsibility to help TRAIN a child’s
mind not to beat it and curse it into submission. Even the
bible states to train up a child as they should go.
Einstein also stated that, “The value of education is the
training of the mind to think.” What a profound statement
from a man from humble beginnings.
He faced prejudice, racism and death from his Jewish
heritage, living in the time of Nazi Germany. He became a
successful professor, scholar, and Nobel Peace Prize winner
for his theory of Relativity and other successes.
This did not happen overnight it took years of
dedication, collaboration, research and using the
elements of STEAM.
This being said, parents prepare your children for
potential careers. Read to you children, provide
positive educational experiences and expose them to
positive people that will lead them in the right direct.
Parents must train up their children the way they should
go, valuing education and those who are progressive,
educated and doing good things in their community. Parents
should ask themselves who would they want their child to
follow; who would they want their children to be like.
Children soak up their environmental residue. If you
constantly beat a child physically and verbally something
will break. Too many children are becoming broken, this
is seen painfully through the comments from
students that they can’t do math and science is too hard.
Students are closing their minds because they are scared
to be challenged, scared to learn from being wrong and
scared to be recognized at being intellectual
in their learning levels.
Teachers are preparing their classrooms to teach.
To encourage learning, building literacy and comprehension
skills. Creating foundational levels for higher order and
critical thinking skills. Parents need to be the
first model for educational value, parents think about
the kind of child or children you are raising. Do you
want them be better than you in life: do you want them
to be better financially, educationally,
socially and even spiritually?
The keys are involvement, attending Open House,
participating in PTA and even going to a School Board
meeting. Being proactive in scheduling Parent / Teacher
conferences before there are problems.
Parents, think about what type of child/children are you
raising for the 2013-2014 school year and beyond.
Albert Einstein encouraged curiosity. Believing there
is a purpose for curiosity and exploration in all of
us no matter our color or culture.
Reading several books, Einstein (Walter Isaacson)
and Malcolm X A Life of Reinvention (Manning Marable),
shows that education overcomes cultural divides, economic
challenges and removal of the denial to learning.
Parents should teach their children to embrace learning,
enjoy learning and create learning environments in
“The ceasing of the school to prison pipeline starts
at home, parents create atmospheres of educational
imprisonment or educational enlightenment”
William Jackson 2013
Fathers this school year take your children to school.
Start a positive tradition of educational excellence
based on love, trust and high expectations.