PROM NIGHT 2012
by William Jackson, M.Ed. and Cheryl Littles
Encouraging communication between parents and their
children this Prom Season.
Poem; On with the dance! let joy be unconfined; No sleep till morning,
when Youth and Pleasure meet To chase the glowing hours with flying feet.
George Gordon, Lord Byron,
Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage
What state of mind will parents and their children be in as Prom Night
approaches for students?
Prom Night is the culmination of a school year built from memories that
will last a lifetime. Prom Night is the conclusion of high school, years of
academic nurturing, psychological reasoning, mathematics calculation,
scientific exploration, awakening social consciousness, emotional maturity
and the realization that parents are sometimes correct in their guidance.
Students will remember many of the relationships, friendships, embarrassing
moments, happy times, stressful times and even times they wish to forget. Prom
Night is an opportunity to close the proverbial book on the academic year and
life as a High School student for students graduating in 2012.
Cheryl Williams a parent of three males all graduates from Raines High School
in Jacksonville, Florida. Cheryl encourages parents to remember their High
School Prom and the days leading up to it. “This is an exciting time for High
School students in preparation for memories that will last the rest of their lives.
The children must be reminded of their responsibilities, the potential dangers if
they are not cautious when driving and possibly drinking.” As a graduate of
Andrew Jackson High School (’79) she still seeing her classmates and from time
to time they talk about their Proms with great memories. Those that attended
their High School Proms to this day remember the events that happened.
Each hour of Prom was a journey in a new direction of realizing the end too
years of High School life are coming to a close. Parents must choose wisely the
words that they instill in their children, this is also a stressful time for parents
because their child or children are growing up, becoming a woman or a man.
Developing into the person that will define their existence, and will either lead
to a life of success, accomplishments or tragedy of a life time of fleeting memories
of the past and unfulfilled wishes of the future.
Reality is sometimes harsh, but very much real as time goes by. The Prom represents
the closing of the doors of adolescents, immaturity, irresponsible behaviors and opens
the door of adulthood, being responsible for the actions and in some cases in-actions
that will determine the direction of growth. What better way to conclude the school
year than with music, friends, food and good times.
A quote about High School life, ”We could love and not be suckers. We could dream
and not be losers. It was such a beautiful time. Everything was possible because we
didn’t know anything yet.”
Parents must still be cautious of the dangers that are hiding in the minds of youth
because of youthful exuberance and in some cases inexperience with alcohol, drugs,
sex and driving. Youth still think they are invulnerable to the tragedies that may
occur in life. Living for this moment should be built on fun and joy, not the heartfelt
pain of injury or death. Parents should balance humorously and seriously reinforcing
in their daughters that young men at this time of Prom Night and the blossoming of
Spring season are as writer Jayne Mansfield describes: “Men are those creatures with
two legs and eight hands.” Cheryl stated to her sons at Prom, “being cautious about sex
and for young men to calm their feelings with respect for the young lady they are
escorting.” Young ladies as well be respectful to your escort, don’t lead them into actions
that may later cause unfortunate reactions that could cause hurt or harm into the future.
As a parent, a teacher and mentor my charge is for parents to be open and honest about
their expectations for their child’s behavior and actions for Prom.
Prom is the last opportunity to create wonderful life time memories, talking points for future
reflections and sharing with family and friends.
Parents be true to your heart and be open and honest, share your concerns, and your
expectations with your child or children and their friends. This time of year is important
to the young person and they deserve to be supported. Just as the African proverb, “it takes
a village to raise a leader,” it also takes a village to make a safe and happy Prom Night.