Visit Your Child In School Fathers
The National Fatherhood Initiative: “Children with involved, loving fathers are significantly
more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social
behavior, and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use, truancy, and criminal activity
compared to children who have uninvolved fathers.”
H. Honor your child; this is their school, say good things to them and about them.
Making nice comments.
I. Involvement in the classroom is optional at first. You can volunteer to help, but
if you are unsure don’t worry about it until next time.
J. Jokes are definitely out. No jokes about the teacher, school, lunch.
K. Keep the conversation simple. Kids remember everything that you say, so do
not make promises you may have trouble keeping.
L. Laugh and enjoy the day, you may have to laugh at yourself.
M. “Mama Drama” or “Baby Mama Drama” should not be brought to school. I have
experienced this personally and it is not fair to the child or children. If there are problems
sometimes you have to swallow your pride and make another trip to the school, so plan to
be there when you can enjoy and talk to your child without drama.
Remember it takes a Big man to back off. Be the Bigger Man and a hero in your child’s eyes.
N. Notice how your child acts, they act differently when home and school. Don’t look
surprised by their actions remember the “apple does not fall far from the tree”.
O. Tell your kids you are proud of even small accomplishments.
P. Don’t promise what you can’t deliver.
Q. Questions are good if you do not know what is going on. Don’t assume
anything because we know what happens when that happens.
R. Resist the temptation to ridicule put down or make negative comments
about other children, teachers, and administrators.
S. Seize the moment; this is a special time for your child and they will remember
you coming and expect consistency.
T. Temptations will arise do not let into them. Don’t flirt with other teachers or adults.
U. Understand your role as a parent, to provide the best educational opportunities for
your child. Work with your child’s teachers not against them.
V. Voice concerns only during parent teacher conferences and make sure you have all your
facts correct. Read the Code of Conduct information.
W. Watch your surroundings, there are a lot of little people walking around, be careful
where you step.
X. Exercise caution when expressing your opinions. Don’t set yourself up to eat crow later
or have to apologize for your actions and words reflect on your child.
Y. You are your child’s first teacher so if there are deficiencies in areas find out how you can
help the teacher with your child.
Z. Just Do It, Go visit your kids in school before the year is over.
As a teacher and divorced father, many fathers do not know you have rights and one of them
is you can visit your child in school. No one can threaten you with prosecution or deny you the
right to visit your kids in school so long as you are respectful, cooperative, mature and orderly.
Whether divorced, separated, married, etc. fathers should visit their children no matter the
situation or circumstance.
Be a father..